Rant - Angry with DP

This might be a bit weird but we miscarried about 3 weeks ago now (blighted ovum). It was an unplanned pregnancy but we were happy about it.

Anyway when we were actually miscarring he said that he would like to try for baby. Then it was maybe we should wait the 2 cycles the doctor said that we should and then last night he has started using condoms when were baby dance. (Sorry if TMI).

I was quite upset with him and angry that I dont even get a choice in the matter of the baby. When I was miscarrying what got me through was the thought of TTC.Because he wants to wait another 1yr until we have more money - do you ever have enough.
Sorry its quite long but I dont know what to say to him or how Im meant to feel.

Edited by dneyn

Hi and hugs to you! Hope all goes well for you in the future. Guys ha - my DH drove me to the point of wanting to trottle him last week, I would love to get pregnant again but he is being careful - driving me insane, hopefully we have it sorted now but I'm with Flutterby in that they are crap with feelings. His standard answer is maybe when I just want a yes!!! When I got pregnant last time I set myself a goal of putting away x amount of money each week which greatly helped in me being able to have 6 months of work. Good luck.

Dneyn, i went throguh something simalar, when i miscarried i thought we would try again soon, on the way home from D&C my hubby told me that he would like to wait, he thought we just werent ready. This totally broke my heart as i thought we were set on trying for a baby. I convinced him that we would just see what happened and that i was strong enough to try again.
After a month i went on the pill cos that was what he wanted. My emotions were still screwed and the pill made it worse. It wasnt until 2 months of being on the pill that i convinced him that i was so unhappy and that i needed to get off the pill, sort my body out and not activly try but just see what happens. We got pregnant 4 months later and now he is happy as.
After the m/c he said he wanted to wait a year, i spose he was scared of what could happen again and all the hurt and pain that we had to go through. We had 8 months between m/c and getting pregnant again and to be honest i think that time although hard was good for me emotionally.

Sorry for the novel, but thats my story, hope it helps a little bit.

im glad youve come to some agreement and that you have talked. It is hard my dh found it hard that such a thing could happen until we found out that its quite common with first pregnancies. Ours was unplanned too - 5 years was the timeframe he wanted until then. We talked and agreed we wanted another and it took us two years to get number two (PCOS) you never forget the one (s) youve lost they are still part of your life an always will. I too had blighted ovum and have gone on to have two boys so keep positive it will happen again good luck!