No 2’s on toilet

We have been trying unsuccessfully for a while now to get our just over 3 year old to do poos on the toilet. She knows she is doing them and will hide away and lately has taken to saying they are coming when she has already pooed. We have tried just about everything. Bribery, a sticker chart with something she really wants, throwing the pooey undies away and making her put on nappy. DH is now threatening her with not being allowed to go to Kindy if she doesn't start going on the toilet. She has now held on for almost 2 days but will not go on the toilet. Any suggestions???

Yeap, heaps of talking about it. Tonight I made her stand in the toilet while she went and told her poos don't get done in the lounge, they have to be done in the toilet and then made her wait a few minutes before going and cleaning her up. The worst thing is she often has a smile on her face when she tells you she has done them!

I can't remember exactly what Dianne Levy's thing is on this but it goes something like, get them to do poos in the nappy but standing in the bathroom, then move on to letting them sit on the toilet with the nappy on to do a poo, then cutting a hole in the nappy and having them sit on the toilet and do their poos, then finally moving on to sitting on the toilet without the nappy.

I found a link for you where she discusses it here

Hope that helps. I had issues with Gabrielle pooing in her undies too for ages. With her I tried a suggestion from someone else on here and brought a whole bunch of $2 shop presents and wrapped them up. Then I put them on the shelf in the bathroom and told her she could have a lucky dip present if she did a poo in the toilet. Then, if she looked like she was going to poo or had started I grabbed her and ran to the toilet, popped her on and then celebrated and let her choose a present. It took about 3 or 4 presents but she started taking herself there to poo.

Good luck!

Yeah I had that problem too Sonia. I think I may have scrapped the poo from her undies into the toilet every time she did them and then just kept trying to get her on the toilet when she was doing them or almost finished. It was just getting her to do the first poo on the toilet, once she realised there was nothing to be scared of and she was going to be rewarded and have a fuss made of her then she started going there herself.

Is she holding on coz she wants a nappy to do them in?Have you tried giving her a nappy but getting her to sit on the toilet to do them? Maybe she is scared of the poo dropping into the toilet?

Its hard work trying to work out what is going on in their brains isn't it?!

Thanks shelt. Most of what was being suggested we have tried. No she won't even sit on the toilet with a pull up on. Guess we will just have to keep on trying and hopefully we will get there soon. DH has more of a problem with it than what I do and it is convincing him that she just needs more time.

She was happy to stand in the toilet tonight and do it in her undies and then tell me when she had finished. I have decided this is progress. She had wanted a pull-up and I said I was okay with cleaning up her undies instead. It is really hard especially when she is starting to wake us up if she needs to go wees in the night! We have had more dry mornings than wet ones lately.

We had this, he used to hide in a corner, then one day I said you have to stand in the toilet, then moved to sitting on a toilet - he was no happy about this - really not happy, had to bribe him to sit on the toilet with a nappy on, then came the right nappy off - NO WAY

He held on for 4 days!!!!!! The minute I said he could have a nappy he went - mad, so I lost it cut hole in nappy he didn't notice as soon as he was on the toilet he noticed and didn't freak, we then went through a hole in the nappy process the hole was so big he knew but he wanted it, then one day I said there is no nappies!!

All in all it took probably a month and I thought we'd never get there but that was a while ago now, maybe even a year.

My DD was like this until she was 4.

Until 3.5 she resisted any toilet training, so after the last failed attempt we compromised and let her stand in the toilet with a pullup on to do her business and then back into undies.
This slowly progressed to sitting on the toilet. At 3 3/4 she did wees in the toilet (with a heap of toilet paper in there to mask the noise). She resisted doing poos in there and still asked for a pullup for it. She informed us that she would do poos in the toilet when she turned 4. Lo and behold the day after her birthday party off she went!

Once we got to the stage of her being able to control her motions, we were happy for her to decide where to 'deposit' it. She's a stubborn little minx so we knew once she decided something it wasn't worth fighting it.