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snugglebug 
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Posted: 13 April 2012 at 1:42pm |
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I am unsure how to go about this. Whenever I have tried to hold his hand, he just lies down and has a tantrum.
He definitely would not understand rewards at this stage and he doesn't understand enough for me to say hold my hand or you aren't allowed to walk kind of thing, or if he did understand he wouldn't listen. I am going to buy one of those little harness backpacks for now, as he's learnt how to climb out of his pram, but I want to work on teaching him to hold hands as well so that in a few months we may be able to do it.
He is a very active toddler and does not like being restrained so teaching him this is a must I feel. Is it too soon yet?
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LateStarterLorna
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Posted: 13 April 2012 at 2:45pm |
Alex wasnt that keen on holding hands but is getting better, it was a case of just keep doing it, I have one of those straps and shes cute as when she wont move til I put it on, of course she wants it off 15mins later but I also hold her hand with it on, so shes getting use to both.
They understand a lot more than we realise, so I just explain why she has to hold my hand or why the strap is there, sure I may as well talk to the trees but she's understanding more and more, we stop at the curb and look both ways and I explain about cars etc
With the backpacks or straps at least they have a little freedom and we can relax as well 
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Posted: 13 April 2012 at 2:49pm |
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Catherine wasn't keen either she's gotten better when she's leading the way didn't get reins or a leash in the end as she didn't like them either.
If she won't hold hands she goes back in the stroller/buggy
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AandCsmum
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Posted: 13 April 2012 at 3:18pm |
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Flip it around....ask them to help you ie Can you hold Mummy's hand as she need you to help her cross the road or something like that, can be as simple as can hold my hand to help me across the road. Worked a treat on my little man who hates holding hands.
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Posted: 14 April 2012 at 6:59pm |
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DS didn't want to hold hands at first either but our rule is hold hands or be carried (which we only do for a minute before trying again). It took him about two weeks to catch on and now he's pretty good.
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Posted: 15 April 2012 at 7:12am |
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I had a backpack reins for DD at that age. She was a runner too so it was a lifesaver. We'd hold hands when she was in the mood (she also did the laying on the ground/tantrums thing) and I'd just emphasize that holding hands was good and nice. We'd also do the hold hands or be carried. We just pushed through it and now at 21 months she's actually really good at holding hands and we barely need to use the reins at all.
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HuMum
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Posted: 16 April 2012 at 1:50pm |
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We also used the hold hands or you are carried/in stroller. Worked a treat after several loud tantrums.
And if he ran off he was instantly put back in the stroller, and I just switched off to the screaming for a couple of minutes and then asked him if he wanted to get out, he had to hold mummys hand.
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Posted: 20 April 2012 at 9:14pm |
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Im with the others.
I ask my DS to hold my hand and if he doesnt there are consequences such as going back in the stroller/trolley or whatever they soon realise there are consequences to not holding your hand.
My toddler now reaches out for my hand as soon as he put down
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Posted: 21 April 2012 at 1:00pm |
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I had major problems getting my DD to hold my hand at that age. In the end, the only thing that worked was either 'hold my hand or you will be back in the pram like a baby' or saying 'bye' and walking off...she would come running after and hold my hand, if she tried to let go and run off, i would just say 'bye' again, and walk off again....calling her bluff still works now at 22mo, just make sure you try it somewhere safe where it doesn't matter if they are a wee bit away from you (we live in a very quiet cul-de-sac). Now she is perfectly behaved and will hold my hand with no problems at all
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Teaching 16 month old to hold hands
