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    Posted: 08 January 2012 at 9:02pm
My DD is 2 years and 2 months and here is our Potty training story. I started potty training her at 23 months, we used stickers, praise etc and she was ok. It took a while to get it so maybe wasn't quite ready. Also because I was working she was at my mothers 2 days a week and then at preschool 2 days a week and some of those days she was all accidents and never had a dry day so after a month we (me and hubby) decided to delay until christmas when we were both off work for 2 weeks.

So just had christmas and this time much better (still not a completely dry day but def better) until the last 2 days. She is peeing on everything and knows she is doing it. She pretty much gets 90% of her poohs in the potty but wees she seems to know what she is doing, she got in the chilli bin, climbed on hubbies laptop case, hides behind curtains etc before going. We have been telling her off but not going well. I have thought maybe we should just ignore and leave her in it until she complains, maybe it is the attention that is pushing her to wee out of defiance. We are still praising the good, we read potty books daily, have just decorated the potty to try to help get her on it again. She is holding on for around 2-3 hours, can pull her pants up and down, is interested etc so is ready but it just seems like such a long road, I am going back to work on Tues so am dreading things going back to the way they were. HELP! Advise please.
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I'm not sure it's the right advice, but bribery, bribery, bribery. Jelly beans, stickers, toys, lollipops, chippies, what have you got?
We started on lollies, and have moved on to stickers, (2 for a #2). I can't believe how happy a kid can be to pick a sticker.
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My mums advice on TT DD was to be over-the-top excited when she gets it right and completely boring when she gets it wrong. It seems to be working.

We say "oh, you did wees on the deck/chair/pram etc. thats no good. wees are meant to go in the toilet" all very calmy but sounding disappointed and leave it at that.

If you are telling her off I guess thats an exciting reaction? I don't think ignore her, because she does need to be reminded that's not the right place for it, but if it's a big drama that might be appealing?

Bribery has it's place too, I agree Isaacsmum
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I second (or third ) the bribery. I gave G one M&M for wees in the potty and two for a poo. I still had some trouble after that with poos - she could do poos in the potty but mostly chose to poo in her undies (I have no idea why, no matter how many times I told her off she still did it) so I upped the bribery to a lucky dip of small $2 shop presents for a poo on the potty or the toilet. My DD has never cared about stickers but she will do anything for lollies and the excitement of the lucky dip present for a poo in the right place was enough encouragement for her to get it right most of the time after a week or so.
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Thanks guys we already doingthe bribery thing so she gets a m&m and a sticker each time she goes. Today was another day of poohs in the potty but no wees they all went on the floor. So hard as I swear she is going backwards. What we were doing prior to telling her off was exactly what is reccommended excited for success and take her to the potty if she missed and say wees don't go on the floor they go in the potty. and also we got her to help clean it up so she knew it was wrong. Maybe we are just at perservere stage and just have to keep going till she gets it. We are selling our house in a couple of months so hope the wee patches on the carpet will be finished by then. LOL So looking forward to having even just one complete dry day.
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Maybe go back a step and put her on the potty every 40mins - 1 hour or so till you get an accidental wee in the potty and celebrate like mad? Like totally big deal dance around lollie and sticker, heaps of praise. Then go back to not saying anything for wee on the floor so she gets the whole "wee in the potty = good attention, wee on the floor = no attention" bit. When I very first started with DD I gave her frequent drinks and I didn't ask if she needed to go, I just set my alarm for every hour or so and put her on the potty. Then I read her a story or did a puzzle with her and let her get up. With some accident wee in the potty and some running around outside with no nappy or undies on she managed to get the connection between the way she was feeling and the wee that came out. Also, I talked to her about the way it felt when she needed to wee - I pointed to her lower tummy below her belly button and told her it would feel full in there when the wees need to come out.

Hope that helps. Otherwise it might be time to take a step back for a month or so and start again. Pull out the napppies, make a sad face and say if she can't put her wees in the potty like a big girl then she needs to wear a nappy again.
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