Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC?

We didn't tell anyone when we were TTC the gremlins and in a way I'm glad coz we didn't get all the well meaning advice when things took a while, but in another way I wish I had coz it kind of feels like people don't get how long it took to conceive them and how hard I found the whole thing just coz we didn't keep them updated every month!

We haven't told anyone and I want to keep it that way if I can. Officially ttc this month so exciting. I kind of like that it is a secret. Something to think about and cheer me up on a crappy day!

We didn't tell anyone, though 2 years earlier I asked my MIL to knot us a baby shawl - we started TTC about a month after she finished it, but they were still v surprised when we told them the news. One of my sisters knew we were planning to have kids "in the next year or two".

A couple of close friends know we arent NOT trying but arent trying either (Hi E)!

Most of our friends and family think that we we will start trying within the year anyway!

I think you have to be careful not to put too much pressure on yourselves. I have such big mouth. When I get excited about something that is usually it and all of a sudden the world knows.

I just have this niggling feeling that maybe we won't fall straight away. I understand that not all women fall straight away and you aren't classified with fertility issues until after 12 months but I would just hate to have people constantly asking how it was going? Too much stress

Zina - I have that niggling feeling as well (in fact DF and I have been talking about it today) but by the same token, most of the people that know we will be TTC know about my endo and stuff, so they know that it may not necessarily happen straight away....thankfully! DF is trying to be really positive about it and saying it will happen really quickly, whereas I'm not so positive. DF thought I was being horrible, until I explained to him today that if I think that way, I'm trying to protect myself from the pain if it actually does take longer (which is what I think anyway).

We didn't tell anyone either. just didn't want the pressure.

always said we would buy a house first then start trying. So that worked well.!!!

MIL was the hardest always dropping hints about wanting grandchildren. So i told her actually that i had gone off the pill 4 years earlier and it's taking a while... so lay off and she did!!

My mum and dad were teh only one's that really knew we were trying but other family didn't.

Next time don't think i'll tell people again don't want the pressure or comments. It may take a while and i try not to think about it. It will happen.

What really really annoys me ( slightly off topic) is the amount of people who ask :

"so when are you having the next one? " Implyig one is not good enough. We are so blessed to have a baby that having another will be another miracle.
Can't we just enjoy our first for a while???

rant over!!

We just started ttc a week ago and it's a BIG secret. In fact, I think everyone will be really shocked as we've never made noise about wanting kids, in fact, we were the opposite! So it'll be interesting to see how they react... We've only told one family member (and her hubby) as she had a baby not too long ago so we wanted someone I could talk to about it if I had any questions, concerns etc. So hard keeping the secret though! We just don't want the added pressure of people asking. Ahh I hope it happens quickly! *touch wood fingers crossed toes crossed*!!!

Hence why I've joined the forum though, think I'll go nuts otherwsie!

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