When did you tell your work?

I told my boss after I had had my nuchal fold scan and the appointment afterwards with my OB to say everything was all good. I was lucky as he was really happy for me and has been lovely and supportive so far. So it was around 13.5 weeks or so.

I have found that most people have told me nice stories not horror stories so far - but my response to horror stories is just to say 'well whatever will be will be, I'm being as careful and prepared as I can be but most of it is out of my hands' and that seems to shut people up.

Have only had one case of unwanted touching - at 12 weeks when there was NOTHING to touch my DH's aunt who I'd met once before had her hands all over my tummy, I just turned away and started talking to someone else LOL! Now I've had a few people have a touch, including my colleague's 13 year old daughter and I dont mind as long as I know the oerson - most people ask first too! I wouldn't be too scared to tell someone I wasn't comfortable with it though.

I had to tell my boss pretty much straight away, I'm a psychiatric nurse so it can be a wee bit dangerous sometimes. So I also had to tell the shift coordinators, just in case there was a restraint or someone kicking off I wouldn't have to be involved!

Everyone was brilliant with me though, including the patients. Funnily enough I never had a problem with anyone when I started showing, even the peeps who have a tendency to get nasty were nice to me - I wondered if it was one of those base instinct things to protect pregnant women!?!

I've had a few touchy feely peeps, the best thing I've found if I was uncomfortable was to touch them back lol! I'd put a hand on their tummy while their hand was on mine, people usually get the picture lol

As for the horror stories, I just smile and nod and zone then out if I don't want to listen!

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That is a great way to deal with it I think I was the same as most people, told about 13-14 weeks.

Never had too much trouble with people telling me horror stories but didn't really listen anyway. As someone else said, smile and nod

troutpout wrote: I've had a few touchy feely peeps, the best thing I've found if I was uncomfortable was to touch them back lol! I'd put a hand on their tummy while their hand was on mine, people usually get the picture lol

Love it!!

AliceM wrote: When did you tell your work? And how? How did you deal with all the well-meaning advice/horror birth stories that everyone trots out? I know it comes from all quarters but when you're trapped at work all day and there's no escape.... And not that I'm anywhere near this point, but how did you handle the "baby bump touchers"?

1) I got a new job whilst pregnant- I was 10 weeks at the interview. I told them at the END of the interview (cheeky!) so that they wouldn't automatically write me off and could see how good I was for the job first. After I started, I made a point not to talk too much about the baby or pregnancy niggles unless someone else asked me- that sort of kept it professional. But in saying that I had just started so we weren't that close or anything.

2) The well meaning advice- just smile and thank them for their advice, but- unless it's someone close to you who's advice you trust and want- ignore the rest!

3) I never really had that many bump touch-ers. Maybe I give out a "don't touch me!" vibe or something? My plan to was just say no.

Good luck!

I told my boss at 4 weeks because I miscarried our previous baby while at work and wanted her to be prepared if I needed time off.

I havent had any advice yet but most people here dont have children.

I LOVE people touching my bump and wish more would. So far its only happened once or twice and was just a quick pat and a "hi baby!"... I keep hoping someone will be close by when baby is bouncing so I can share it!