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    Posted: 22 January 2011 at 2:01pm
This is a thread for people who have decided to not let other peoples opionions matter.
I will start we are planning a big family and everybody who think we shouldn't can sod off. Yes I can talk too much but if you don't. Like me for who I am can sod the people that matter like me
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If you really didn't care what other people thought of you and your decisions, then you wouldn't have started this thread.

It kind of screams insecurity, immaturity and attention seeking.

Just saying.

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Lol it actually branches off anther thread. Sometimes when you write stuff it is easier to start to believe it
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I just went and read that, so I apologise for my comment, I got the wrong end of the stick. I went away and thought about what I said and realised that it was quite rude.

And yeah I agree, you do start to believe things when you write them down.


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Oh I'm curious, what other thread?

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Originally posted by mamanee mamanee wrote:

I just went and read that, so I apologise for my comment, I got the wrong end of the stick. I went away and thought about what I said and realised that it was quite rude.



yes it was - i couldnt believe you had been so rude!
luckily butterflymum probably didnt give a sod!

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Exactly bizzy I really didn't lol

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Your thread Kelly.

Good group! It's a hard thing to learn to not care what others think of you but once you do... It feels great!
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my mother was always going on at me about "what will they think of me". and really it did her no good... she eventually learnt that what "they" thought didnt matter. Some peoples opinions do matter but you shouldnt let what random strangers on a message board say affect you deeply. after all they are judging you only on what little you show of yourself or what they choose to see.

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Yeah thought so Nicky. Was just confirming my suspicion. Figured it probably was.

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Kelly it is not a dig at you I really do think people who have social issues blame other people when in reality it is often how that person feels about themselves I think it would be so a better place if we learn xtra be comfortable in our own skin at not let what others think control how we feel about ourselves. Someone said treat others how you like to be trated that only works if you know how to be happy about you and treat yourself right
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LOL! It's ok ButterflyMum    I knew it wasn't a dig at me. I was being nosey. LOL! My last name is 'Parker', so I can't help myself. I have to be a nosey Parker LOL!

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I like the saying I dont care what people think about me because that is their problem!
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I agree with _ Waiting_

and i only think about and care what people say if it's my closest family, DH and close friends. Nobody else knows me well enough to pass judgement.
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wow so you all really don't care what people think??!! I would love to not care at all but I do... not to the point that it rules my life, and I'm a happy, friendly person who is comfortable around people... but I do still care what people think of me. I mean I buy clothes to try to look nice, I do my hair when I go out even when I can't be assed, I make sure the kids are clean and polite, I'm friendly to people even when I'm in a bad mood, I am too embarassed to buy wine when I am pregnant incase they thought it was for me, I'm not a public speaking fan incase I stumble on my words or say something dumb etc etc... I can see life would be much easier not caring, but what a hard place to get to IMO...
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Yeah Freckle I agree. It would be nice not to care. But I'm not at that place yet either.

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freckle its not that hard... once you realise that what they think doesnt matter!

essentially though you are giving a stranger power over you...

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See. Like to be clean And tidy and dress nice hair and makeup cause it makes me feel good not to impress anyone.   I do still do care but I won't let that rule me.   Think. That is the secect don't change who you are to impress someone else. Just learn to be you not who people expect you to be
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The best advice my dad ever gave me was "you can't please all of the people, all of the time. You can only ever please some of the people, some of the time". And honestly, that advice has been liberating for me.
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Exactly JadeC and tbh it was when I overcame my darkest days that I realised it.

All you can do is be yourself and if people don't like it then it's there problem and they clearly aren't the right people for you!

Like Bizzy, my gran has spent her whole life worrying about what 'the neighbours will think' etc... No point worrying about it... It ends up ruling your life as someone mentioned and for me personally I'd rather be enjoying my life, my dd etc than worrying about what someone (I may not even know?!) thinks!
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