QuoteReplyTopic: Why my bestie is my bestie... Posted: 07 October 2007 at 10:54pm
I have two best friends -- one here, and one in the US. Thinking about them today, I was struck by how different they are, but that I love them both so much. So I thought I'd post why my besties are my besties. :) Feel free to join in and tell us why you and your bestie get along so well!
Bestie #1 (in the US): The first person I lived with out in the "real world", even though we'd known each other since we were about 10 years old. When I picture her in my mind, she is still about 13, wearing stirrup pants and an oversized sweatshirt, with a spiral perm and a hairsprayed fringe. She introduced me to the joys of reality TV and helped me to fail many a crash diet. She listened to me cry over many unworthy boyfriends without judging or rolling her eyes, even though I'm sure she wanted to. She helped me get my first decent-paying job at her company, and let me become friends with all of her friends since I didn't have any of my own. I was a bridesmaid in her wedding, which I cried the whole way through, and she peed on a stick in my bathroom when she found out she was pregnant for the first time. She supported me when I moved here, even though she knew it meant we wouldn't see each other for years and that I'd miss the birth of both her children, yet still agreed to store my stuff in her basement (and move it, along with her own stuff, twice). She is godmother to my daughter, even though she hasn't been able to see her since she was six months old. Now she sends me care packages with deodorant and Reese's Peanut Butter Cups, and answers all of my weird questions about babies without batting an eyelash.
Bestie #2 (here): My first real friend after I moved here, who taught me that yes, you can meet great people on the internet! She has always accepted me, even though I am sure she thought I was a bit weird at first! (And probably still does.) We bonded over our mutual love of quilting and sewing, and four years later, we're now navigating the waters of first-time motherhood together. She was my one and only bridesmaid at my wedding, and put up with me over many, many crafty weekends where I made a mess in her lounge, riled up her dog, and drank way too much Bailey's with my Cadbury Caramello ice cream. She is a very competitive board game player and always kicks my arse at them, as she's a bit too clever for me sometimes. She gives the most thoughtful presents and is creative and talented at every crafty thing she turns her hand to. She kept me sane throughout pregnancy and the early days of having a baby, despite being pregnant and not feeling so great herself. She called me from the delivery room after her baby was born, which is right up there as one of the coolest moments of my life. She treats my daughter like her own and made me godmother of her son. She lets me escape to her place for weekends away from the Big Smoke, although now it doesn't happen as often as it used to. She is also the reason I got a mobile phone -- because she's the person I text the most, at any hour of the day or night, and she never yells at me if it's too late or early.
#1 I'm learning that G.O.D is and how to be best friends with Him. No easy task
#2 My wife. knows me better than anyone else - even better than #3. She makes me want to be a better man. She laughs at my stupid jokes. She's the best cook in the world. She teases me. She loves me and supports me and just keeps giving herself to me (no I don't mean sexually, I mean she gives of herself, of her heart), She's honest with me, She (attempts to) keep me accountable to what I say I'll do, She's the mother of my kids. There's more but not at the mo.
#3 My best male friend. known each other for 17+ years. We'd stay over at each others place talking till all hours about God, guns, girls, games. We've been there for each other through some pretty tough times, both stuck it out, and both have had a go at each other. Been through mistrust and some things that almost split our friendship but we were able to work through those and we came out stronger for it. Then when Teresa came on the scene he was my bouncing board and my ear for 4+ years during courtship & engagement etc. We've probably played ten-thousands of hours of games (PC & Playstation) together. We lived together for 1 year (don't do this - don't live with your best friend unless your married or have that kind of commitment). I was a sounding board and an ear for him when Kathy came on his scene. He moved to Dunedin 4 years ago, and to this day I miss him. Now, I consider him my blood and I'd take a bullet for him, if I had to.
#2 & #3 fulfill different needs. They are both my best friend. No one else I know comes close to these two - my wife and my best mate.
one of my best friends is my friend Shaun. He is like my older brother and just gets me - like when i shaved his head and cracked up over his name "shorn" for several weeks - and my obsession over free-cell. we wrote crappy movies together for movie competitions (very very unpolitically correct), and he can alwsy cheer me up. Even though we don't talk every day - we can not talk for several months - but we get bcak together and it is like nothing has changed. And i am sooo stoked that he has met his soul mate and got his two kiddies because I also know how lonely he was.
Bestie two is Sapphy in England. same thing - we crack up together, we don't speak for months and then can chat like nothing was ever different. i love it. A common factor in my besties
bestie three is Yoshie - she sends me japanese nice things and made me a neat book when i left and it made me cry.
My bestie is Shelly. We've been friends since we were 11 years old, and now, at 33 our friendship is still going strong.
She has always always accepted me for exactly who I am. She keeps me in line when I get too unruly, knows all the right things to say when I'm feeling low, and is the best sounding board in the world now I'm a mummy - she is one of the best mothers I've ever had the privilege to know.
She is brave, and tough, and funny, and a fabulous cook.
We've been to school together, chased boys together, travelled together, flatted together, gotten drunk together, spent waaaaaaaaay too much money together. We've argued, we've laughed, we've cried, we've played practical jokes on each other.
She rocks, and I am so lucky to have a friend like her
I don't really have a bestie so-to-speak, I fluctuate depending on where I am at a given time in my life, there have been people who have been really close friends at one time or another but we've gradually drifted apart as we've started doing different things, or else we've had great fiery rows over one thing or another (damn my Irish temper and stubborn ability to hold a grudge forever!).
There is one person in my life who is a constant tho, we don't see each other all that often these days coz we're both busy with other things, but I know she's always there if I need her and vice versa. I made a slideshow of pics for her Dad's funeral earlier this year, she held my hand while I gave birth to Maya coz Willie was so bloody useless. We've been thru it all pretty much, she's Maya's godmother and was one of the first people I called after the gremlins arrived. We just have this kind of understanding that we'll be here for each other when the need arises.
Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
Im in the same boat as Emma....my friends are always there if I need them....and I can go months, weeks, or years without seeing them and nothing changes they are always there!
I have had friends who have been around since I was about 14 - mostly cause i left my neighbourhood to go private school in town....but those friends have stood by me always. Im not offended when friends call after months of silence...we understand one another and that is what our friendships are based on.
Im constantly developing new "friends" but am somewhat envious of those like K who have had that childhood friend continue throughout!
and (in case he reads this) BSDH is my "best" friend....despite him being a total arse often, ( and esp at midnight last night), he is always there and loves me unconditionally!!!
LOL susieq, I know exactly where you mean -- I only discovered them as my "source" after Em started going to the babysitter and I stopped there one day for an ice cream!
Karz and i have been best mates forever, since i was 5 and she was 4, we met the day i moved across the road,shes been part of my life for so long that i cant actually remember a time she wasnt in it, when we were younger if someone was looking for us they knew they only had to find one of us and the other would be there.
We've gone through all our major milestones together, and were kind of pregnant together (well i was 9 months and i think she was about 3) she was my birthpartner, cut the cord and is Caitlyns god mother, she'll be my maid of honour too, i was at the birth of her daughter as well, and now our daughters are great friends, which is nice.
We dont live across the road from each other like we did so we dont see each other everyday like we used to but we still catch up regularly.
She is more than a friend to me, shes more like my sister.
My other bestie is rachel, who was my next door neighbour,weve been friends for over 10 years now, shes great, she has arthritis (actually, she was on Breakfast a couple of weeks ago) from her jaw to her toes and had her hips replaced at 14,but never complains,i admire her heaps, shes a great listener and we never have awkward silences, i can tell her anything and know she wont feel any different about me.
Im very lucky to have friends like these
and btw karlene (karza on here) dont be all smart alecky about my post,or i wont be your friend any more neh neh
My bestie is really special. We met at work many years ago, she wasn't looking all that happy while waiting for the lift so I asked if she was ok, expecting the "I am fine" response. Instead I got a full life story, followed by tears and the rest, well, its history.
She has a very special son who I can honestly say I feel like he is part mine too. He has ADHD and can be a real handful but is also the most loving and caring kid I have ever come across. She is a solo Mum, her partner left her when she was 3 months pregnant. While I didn't know her at that time, I sometimes wish I had, because I would have loved to have been involved in her life from the beginning of Aryn's. Her family, I can say with her blessing, is rather trashy (but she isn't). She has been through a lot with her brother and sister both in trouble many many times with the law and drugs and despite having her own problems to deal with, she was always there for them. She realises that people make mistakes and no one is perfect.
She was also the first person I called when I had Charlotte, the first person I visited and she is the person who bought me the most useful items that I had never thought to buy myself when I had my newborn.
She is the person who I can say anything to, she doesn't take any offense and knows that anything we talk about, we do with openess and honesty. We can finish each other sentences and have had many people, who have never actually seen us together, say that we are so similar - a colleague of mine recently told me that after having a conversation with Mel, she felt like she was talking to me cause we are so alike. Weird!
I don't see her much anymore either, we are moving in slightly different life stages and she is busy becoming the next super woman in her job. Despite this, whenever we do catch up, we spend the whole time talking non stop and laughing so hard that we have to leave to different parts of the house to calm down.
We have many stories, some drunken and some not from our earlier days. One of my favourite memories with her is sunrise on 1 January 2005, the year that I got both pregnant and married. We were still up from our big new years night out and watched the most amazing sunrise together talking about the changes ahead for each of us that year. Its so special, the conversation and sunrise is burnt into my mind. It will be forever.
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