i need your opinion

firstly i realise this is a minor issue I just wanted to know what other people think..as I'm aware my mood is different since becoming pregnant:)

I was friends with someone before they were married(for many years when i was about 16 and he was about 26..) he got married at 30 to a lady i introduced him to but not before she banned us from speaking to each other because 'i knew him better?'!! and it wasn't a sexual thing ever and i was in a long term relationship with someone else most of the time during the time they were getting to know each other..anyway to keep the peace he took me out to lunch and explained he wasn't allowed(i hate that word) to see me much and so i didn't see him for a few years.

Anyway they got married i got invited to the wedding and we patched things up..for the next 4 years i saw them but I always had to call first and arrange it at least 3/4 days in advance and i always went there(even before they had their children) .. and when i did go there i was told what to do and not do etc when holding the baby..(even though was a teacher of under 2's and lots more experience with babies than her....

anyway this year after my miscarriage i got an email that was sent to me entitled 'to all the mothers i know'and it was all about advice for new mums etc. and i lost it.. which i never do but it was the last straw and i asked her to back off..and eventually got sick of it being such a one sided friendship .told her that and haven't seen her since feb/march...

today my Mum rings me and she rang my Mum...Mum (who normally is very careful what she says ) thought she knew so she told her bout me being pregnant..and she asked Mum to give her my number...Mum wouldn't and she got a little annoyed but left her details..

now I feel weird...do i contact her even though I'm sick of the one sided friendship and really don't need that esp at the moment because i feel like i should..or do i not and feel bad about it? I am really annoyed that she rang my Mum instead of ringing me (I'm clearly in the phonebook and she knows how to track me down and has my email) ..it seems so immature.. but maybe I'm just being emotional because I'm pregnant?

I wouldn't bother. Like you said it was a one side friendship and like you said, you don't need it.

no i really don't want to call her..I've always really just gone along with what my Mum says to keep the peace but since I've been pregnant and married I've learnt i need to make my own decisions.. and about a year ago I realised i had several friends like this..since i haven't been speaking to them life's been alot better..so i guess i just answered my own question..Mum thought I should call her but i told her it's my decision and although i would think about it ...it's unlikely..

mostly i was friends with them for him..we wee the best of friends and we have a lot in common and he is a wonderful guy .. and i can forgive him for making that decision years ago..but hes's not contacted me since then either(except about the wedding) ...i just think it's sad he changed so much when he married her..but not much i can do about that though , i guess i just miss the friendship i used to have with him but i can't be friends with just him and not her!:(

maybe she wants to apologise... theres nothing wrong with getting in touch with her to see what she wants and never contacting her again if you dont want...
and maybe if she didnt know you were pregnant now she didnt know about the miscarriage either hence the to all the mothers i've know email...
curiosity would get the better of me i'm afraid and i would have to know what she wanted to say...

I think if she has contacted your mum and not specifically tracked you down, maybe that was to not be pushy? I'd be inclined to give it a go since so many months have passed. I guess always in the back of your mind could be an awkwardness about him and them though. But definitely you need to make up your mind for yourself and not just do what your mum says.