4mths & waking at night - what to do?

Shells wrote: Hey you!! I know for a fact that you are doing a fantastic job!! I have seen Corban and he is a happy and gorgeous wee man, I really admire how much you have persevered with breastfeeding him too, you are an awesome Mum! People are so opinionated when it comes to feeding babies, they don't seem to take into account how emotionally fragile new mums can be and can be quite insensitive about the way they say things sometimes which makes me cross! I've recently put Kimberley fully onto formula after she had recovered from her op and the guilt I felt about it due to things that have been said (even by my own Mum!) is ridculous. Maybe I should make them try expressing several times a day while raising a 2 year old and see how they get on!!

Hi Shells,

I'm not sure whether your comments are aimed at us who have commented before you. But I would like to remind you that many of us are also new mums going through many of the same trials. Our comments were not intended to hurt Mrs_B, just trying to answer her original post as best we could, based on our own experiences

Hey Mrs_B I don't have a Mothercraft where I am but I'm a real routine person too!! I used the babywise book and worked out a routine for Jake by that which at 4 months had him on 4 hourly feeds. It was so awesome to know what to expect and having him sleep so well!! I had awful PND and PTSD too so not having to think too hard about what was going to happen next was very helpful!

With his early am feed I was wondering if maybe you'd tried waking up and feeding him at 3am?? That makes it 5 hours after his 10pm feed and 4 hours before his 7am feed. I know its abit rough but if you have to get up anyway then might be the way to go? You could slowly start cutting down on how much you give him and maybe in a month try seeing if hes sleeps right through if you leave him?? It worked for me and Jake anyway

It can be easy to feel got at on forums just coz theres no tone of voice of facial expressions to judge where people are coming from but OB is really supportive and in the few years I've been in and out I've never seen anyone intentionally hurt someone else (sometimes opinions can just be a tad blunt ) so hope you don't continue to feel like a bad mum coz you sound like you're doing an awesome job.