Help! Make up my mind for me!

Okay lets look at it realistically. Dont know your history with your dad so lets start there.

Do you get along with your dad? If yes that is a good thing. If no and you constantly fight ect might be a bad thing with a baby around.

How is your dads personality? Does he like babies? Or doesnt he mind them? Or does he hate crying ect?

Are you currently working at the moment and will have to find a new job?

You say that you know people everywhere ect. Just remember once you have a baby it really isnt that nice moving all over the place. I speak of experience here. I had to move with our 7 week old and she took it hard. Really hard. She ended up sleeping with us. We moved again when she was 9 months old and she ended up spending a month away from her daddy. Then we moved over here at 10 months.

You might say it was big moves but even the small moves really can upset them so going from one friend to the other isnt that nice if you can avoid it.

Other plus is you dont have to pay rent and can save that money or pay of bills or use it for bubs or your trip to your mom.

I would sit down and write down all the pluses and minuses and then see. Living in a place for a year is not that bad. You will be really busy with bubs anyway.

I'd say think about where you get your best support from, and head that way.  If your Dad is a good support to you, it sounds like a really wonderful offer.  If it's your friends who are nearby and not really family, maybe staying put is a good idea?  I don't know anything about your family or your friends, but think it's great that you've got friends dotted around the country who'd gladly have you to stay.  Just a little caution here though - are they friends with good understandings of family life?  'Cause I found that even some of the loveliest friends can be at a bit of a loss to know what kind of support you need when you suddenly become a parent, if they've not been there themselves.  Also they're not often available for the same stuff you are and vice versa.  So I guess I'm saying - horray for mates, but don't put all your eggs in that basket!  All the best with your decision. 

A year isn't that long and its long enough to save up the money you need to go overseas.

Where is Port Waikato?? Is it in the Auckland region??? If it is and you have friends there then and you have transport then day trips will be fine.

With him being away during the week it'll mean that you can get things done (like sleep and know you won't be disturbed), and also if you want people to visit you then at least your dad won't be there like the third wheel (IYKWIM???).

I think it sounds like a great idea, you'll be semi living on your own (with baby) but with a bit of backup over the weekends. Do you drive? That will help you feel not too far away from everyone (actually I think it would be kinda nice living that distance away, and on the beach, for a year lol).

Are you planning on working in that year? Are you working now lol? It might even be easier to move a month before baby is due so you can pack/unpack and also get in touch with a couple of mums' groups. But not necessary. When you move, see where the nearest Plunket is because they'll be able to get you in touch with other mums in the area.

i love the port...great place to run my dogs on the beach....

Its not that far to puke - we can be home in botany from there in 45 mins! so if you can drive its not too bad.

I think you will find that it wont be so easy to move around with bubs, and you would be best to make sure your friends come visit you a lot too....

I can see why you dont want to be there for the birth but puke matternity hosp is meant to be real nice etc as is papakura...but the port can seem like miles out when you are in a hurry. I would suggest otherwise that you move before bubs and settle so you dont need to move later....

and hey the views and the ocean make living out there all worthwhile...think of the beach exercise you can get walking bubs each day

if u are still there in summer we will come visit - we love going out there and have friends with baches etc out there...

Ahh you guys have made up my mind. Thanks! lol. It was a good idea asking!

So im gonna probably move there hehe. Might think about moving there soon, but i dont really wanna be bored by myself while pregnant. Cause i mean at least here i have my friends that come pick me up every now then when they arent busy with uni etc.

But who knows. Ill have to think about that now! hehe.

Thanks again guys your a huuge help

Yeah i had dial up when i was on my sisters laptop but she left and took it so i decided when i got another computer to switch to broadband and just got it on monday.
So it will probably make me angry going back to it but ill live! Its better than nothing i guess. And it does the job.

Plus i will have to pay $90 to disconnect it, i was going to take it with me when i moved out, but seeing as i cant have it at the port ill have to pay it.

Good idea. Ill give that a try when the time comes and see what happens

Ill have a chat to my brothers friend also, he works for telecom so he can tell me if they will tell me to rack off or not lol.