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MelanieAndBree View Drop Down
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    Posted: 29 June 2007 at 9:59pm
So i live with my SIL and neice. And my she works nights on thurs, fri, sat so i babysit for her. Which i have no problem with.. most of the time!

Im sick of not being able to DO anything! I cant go out on the weekends. If i want to go out with my friends i have to give like a few days warning, which sucks cause my friends and i dont plan things, they just happen.

AND wednesdays the SIL goes out to play poker and i am there, sure ill babysit. But do i get asked? No. She just assumes ill do it.

My useless brother NEVER looks after his daughter. He is the most selfish F'n person i know. He only looks after her when it suits him! One weekend i really wanted to stay at my friends place but he just left and refused to be here so i had to stay!
Shouldnt he be asking ME to babysit when he has things to do? Not the other way round! I feel like ive inhereted a freakin daughter!

Dont get me wrong, i love my neice and if i am not doing anything, i have no problem with looking after her seeing as i live here!
But i have no life! My friend will say "come over" and my answer is ALWAYS "i cant, gotta babysit.

Yesterday my SIL wasnt meant to work, and she gets home after course and tells me she has to go in. She doesnt ask me first THEN tell them she can work, no, she etlls them she can work and assumes i will look after ash. So i packed a huge tanty and now im not looking after her tomorrow lol.

Im just so frustrated. Im like the built in babysitter and i cant have a life. I want to scream.
I cant do anything about it either. My brother is a prick and his life is more important than his own child. I cant just refuse to do it and not be here cause then my SIL cant go to work and id be the bad guy.
My brother is INFURIATING. He suddenly decided at the last minute last weekend that he didnt want to look after Ash and didnt. So the SIL couldnt go to work. Yes, thats how much of a bastard he is. (he is a teacher so its not like he had work that night either).
I wasnt there cause id told her like a week in advance that i was staying in Waihi for a week.


I am just glad her brother is coming over from thailand on sunday. So i can just chill and do what i want when i want.
i dont like to be stuck. I like to be able to go anywhere at any time. I mean yeah im having a child soon so im going to be even more tied down lol but i want as much free time as i can till then you know? I dont want to be tied down till i have to be!


OK im done. Sorry, had to get that out as its driving me crazy. I just want to get it through to my stupid brother but its honestly impossible!

UGH.
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Hugs Mel! What an awful situation to be in. Seriously, what would they do if youweren't living there? They would have to find an alternative.

i think you need to mention to your SIL that you are feeling a bit taken for granted at the moment as there have been so many times you hvae been expected to sit when you really should be asked.

But then I guess it also depends if that will rock the boat as you still have to live there!

Tough one - just hope it helps sharing with us :hugs:
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Hugs Mel! I wish I had some advice (other than slap your SIL upside the head, but I'm not sure that's constructive ) but I hope venting helps! You could always trade SIL stories with Katherine, I hear hers is a doozy!
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Mel - fair enough for needing to vent! I'd talk to SIL and tell her you're prepared to babysit 1 day per week, so long as you haven't already booked anything she can choose the day perhaps? And other than that, your life is your own! You're going to have a baby soon, and you're probably already quite tired at night so you need to not have that responsibility. Leave it to B and SIL to sort out the rest of the days, stay strong! This is a positive and healthy boundary.
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Thanks guys!

Yeah, having a rant does feel better, lol.

I just cant say anything to her though. I dont know why, its just me i guess. I dont want to cause any trouble or seem like a cow ya know.

I mean i dont mind looking after her when im home. I just am sick of being expected to.

Oh i dont know! lol. At least it wont be happening from now on as her brothers over tomorrow!
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Ooo that does suck. I'd kick their asses.

Or just invite friends over to play with you on the weekends? They can drink at yours before they head to town! (That way they get to play with ya and you aren't forced to trudge the clubs in the small hours )
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I would if they lived in hamilton :(
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