Is it toooo Close?

Hello.
Mark came home last night and said there was a possibilty he would be doing a job in Ohakune from the 14th August to about the 23rd. He wanted to ask me what I thought. He is keen to do it because of the money & experience etc but of course if I happened to come early (which is a possibility as Paige was a couple of weeks early and fast labour) he would be a bit of a drive away. And the midwife does not think this one is going to take long at all either.
Im not too sure how I feel about it.

What would you guys do?????

tough call, how long would it take him to get back? We had a similar situation this time round too with hubby being asked to go to a conference in Auckland (which is obviously a distance from christchurch) Because Kobe was 6 weeks early we decided to play it safe and him not to go but then Addison was induced anyway. Unfortunately though there were lots of things he missed out on because of the uncertaintey of when baby would come. Sorry not much help but I think you have to decide how important it is for him to go.

Where are you? LOL I can tell you how long it would take (approx) to get from Ohakune to wherever! When are you due?

If it helps, I told Nat he can't go away to the Coromandal the first week of November (I'm due the 11th) on a school camp.

It takes us 4 hours to get from Ohakune to my inlaws place in Hairini (Welcome Bay side) on the edge of Tauranga: that's 1.5 hours to Taupo, 45 min to Rotorua and 1 hour to Tauranga (yes, I know it doesn't add up, but not including stops it still takes us those individual times yet 4 hours total!)

I'm guessing the bridge is probably either up the mountain a little, towards National Park, or on the Paraparas (SH4 to Wanganui)... but I haven't heard anything yet... it'll probably be in next week's local paper.

As far as how close it is to when you are due... that is something you are going to have to consider yourself... bear in mind when Paige arrived but also talk to your midwife and see what she thinks about the possiblilty of you going into labour before your due date. Kiya was probably 2 weeks early (based on appearance at birth) but my midwife didn't think I'd go early with Josiah despite three weeks of useless contractions before he arrived bang on his due date.

Thats a hard one. If it were me... but thats me, lol. I would not want Glenn to go away around due date. it would be too stressful for me and would be unhappy. If you have any signs that labour has started like the show, etc It would probably be a risk but then again 4 hours is a fair bit of time to get back in early stages of labour,. (maybe).

It really depends how you feel about the possibility of not having Mark there through the whole process with you. Also to me having a baby is the most important event in our lives and if Glenn missed it then he would probably regret it. Just my opinion.

And I think it is exactly liek Kellverona said - if you can accept that he might not be there then its ok, but if that possibility is totally out of teh question for you then make him stay - it's really an individual thing I think!

I wouldn't want Peter to be away but I don't think he would want to either! If it were me/us I would ask Peter to stay... Tough call though!!

If it were me, I'd say no - but I am VERY nervous and unsure about whole thing (being first time around etc) I also don't have my mum or sister here as a backup - if I did I would possibly be different. It is definitely a personal decision though and I think only you can know how you feel about it. If it makes you feel bad I would say no. Good luck with decision.

Thanks for all your advice. I have decided he can go.Its a good opportunity and the money is great. I dont have a Mum or Sister for back-up but have a good friend who I have asked if he is not here could she take me and be my support person til he got there (in that time it might be all over - oh well!!)Jo has had four kids and I feel good knowing she could be there.
I would have asked Grandma and Grandad but feel a bit odd about theat. Plus they are going to have Paige.

:o)

Mark reckons they can fly him from there- I didnt think they had an airport in OHAKUNE!!! LOL!

Ha ha Didnt think so!!!

Oh well...See what happens. he works for Fulton Hogan so possibly they would do something..Who knows!!

He should be back on the 26th so thats still 13 days before my due date. So fingers crossed, legs crossed and some stern talking to this Lad about staying in til his Dad gets home!!