Other people’s opinions!!!! (Rant)

I've only had one child (at 17 so my circumstances might be different) - But my MIL was the same, not so much with the food side of things (at the baby shower they threw me they had brie cheese, wine etc nothing for me) was more how I was going to look after baby etc and through pregnancy telling me to work full time all they way through (was doing part time) and to not have a kitten (we had one!) (I didn't do the kitty litter though) and was trying to tell me how to do things throughout, when Arna was born she was like a dog with a bone... Had to do it her way or the highway (I chose the highway) and was down for a week after Arna was born and shut my mum out..

So just say to her along the lines of "I have been pregnant before and I am not suffering for it, I know what my body can handle and I have made these choices as I believe that is what is best for my unborn baby AND your unborn grandchild." If you want to get nasty just say if she wants to eat seafood etc then she can get pregnant and do it... its not her body / pregnancy or baby!!

Good Luck!!

When i was pregant with the kids I was also working. I was the boss and people used to piss me off all the time and drive me crazy with stupid complaints.
Sometimeas I would scream at them (what a great boss huh)

"YOU ARE STRESSING ME OUT AND KILLING THE BABY"

People back off prety quickly then.


Also, people's opinions drive me crazy.
"they" know crap. My step-mum tried to tell me that babies should sleep on their stomachs so they don't choak if they vomit.

You are not alone. My MIL is constantly telling me what to do and how I am doing things wrong....actually last night she told me how wonderful of a mother she was and how I dont par up to her standards....well to freaken bad isnt it. Its my child and will look after her my way. She is happy and healthy so .......*%#(%#....

Ok so I never tell her off about bugging me but I have built up a defence system where I ignore what she is saying.....some times I dont even listen to her.

Dont let her get to you, unless you want unecessary problems just ignore her. You are a mother and you know best. However if you can talk to her and explain to her that you dont need her to stress you out and you wanna do things your way then it might be an idea...but if your MIL is any thing like mine then I doubt it.

Edited by Roksana

Grrrr, MIL's

Well said Pepsi!

Wow some MIL's sound like tough work!!!  I'm lucky that my mum and my in-laws are cool with the food safety guidelines so there's never an argument over that.  But wow have I found a whole lot of people who disagree!!!  I once sat in a room full of (older) women telling me how "rediculous" it was for me not to eat the cold ham salad sandwiches that were made the day before with deli meat (uh... hello - there's like THREE problems with those!!!) and sniff and snoot about how "silly" I was being while pushing them on me... I don't even like sandwiches!!  That was before the cranky hormones really kicked in so I took it like a lamb I'm ashamed to say (because they didn't shut up in a hurry). 

I've also been lectured by a few people not to "reach up" for anything, and that anything above my shoulder height (uh... that's half our kitchen stuff!) has to be got by my husband, who is apparently meant to be at my beck and call now every time I want to get a mug or plate (how he's going to go to work I just don't know!).

I've also had a lady whose career was nursing try hard out to push wine on me (go figure!).  It's the food one that really gets me though because people just go on and on about it - I agree with Pepsi's point.  And anyway, who is really going to look back and say "wow I really wish I'd eaten brie for those 9 months".  Puh-lease. 

Thanks for all your help guys. It's nice to know I'm not the only one dealing with this! I can't argue with my MIL. She brings up how ridiculous it is not to eat the foods and when i respond by explaining again why i don't eat them, she sighs and says "So you keep telling us, Mel". Its like a brick wall so I try to ignore it, but sometimes it gets too much, hence posting on here!

you should sigh and say

"yes (sigh), sometimes it's like talking to a brick wall"
or
"yes, but it just goes to show that I (emphasis this) care about the baby"

Oh, i can be so bitchy on these sites. IN reality I would say
"yes, pass the ham"

My MIL rocks and I have no problems with her at all but as for other people opinions on almost everything....well we won't even go there *rolls eyes*