Giving away baby gear to family

The big stuff Im selling to recoup some costs .. other stuff id hand on if I couldnt be bothered listing it

Definitely pushy but that's just how she is

I would like to keep a few things for my own sister should she ever decide to have babies

Classic, sally! This same discussion come up the other day at our house as my SIL has a 5 month old and was asking about all Mac's clothes. I am sooo not prepared to lend or giveaway any clothes until this one is born...apparently to some that is selfish

I am selling stuff like buggy, cot, bumbo seat etc as they will make me money back but will keep some stuff for my brother and also for DH's younger sister. I also think that if we had been given stuff I would have given them something for it probably not cash but at least a meal voucher or something.

I lent a friend our basinette, sheets & tummy tub & when she returned them recently she bought us a box of chocolates, along with the carry cot she is lending us . So I will definitely have to make sure I buy her a little thank you gift when we return it.

Don't get me wrong, I have no problem lending things to people & giving them *some* things but not EVERYTHING! And we will have finished our family by then so it could get tricky lending her things as we may not get them back as she knows we wouldn't be needing them.

By the way, this is the same SIL who expects us to take our family of 4 to Thailand for her wedding next year (yip that bugs me too lol ).

Hannah, I doubt your SIL is annoyed with you. Surely she wouldn't have offered to lend you things if she didn't want you to take her up on her offer.

Yup, I'm with Bobbie.

We'll be selling car seat, cot and basinette.
And most of the clothes, as long as they're in good condition.

Having said that, should my sister want/need our basinette/cot/car seat, she's welcome to use them, provided they're taken good care of so we can then on-sell them (or she can give me some money for them).
She's family, and my best friend, but at the end of the day we've spent good, hard-earned money on this stuff. And I know she'll understand

My cousin gave us some things that they had used for their daughter... HOWEVER.. we didn't get them for free. My mumma paid them a little for it. We certainly didn't get given anything free and I'd never expect anything for free these days. People just generally can't afford it. I sell off what we no longer need to find the next stage.

Oh and having been to Thailand twice and got very bad food poisoning the second time (from my Father's inhouse cook) I can say there is no way in hell I'd take my young children to a third world country like that until they were a lot older.

I don't believe it is safe for children that age to be exposed to the disease and germs that are around there plus if anything does go wrong there's no ambulance service or anything like that.

My SIL gave us lots of clothes when C was born but she has finished having kids (she says, lol) and she did ask that we keep a couple of things to give back to her as they are "special" outfits. Fair enough.

We didn't even think to ask for anything bigger because a) their kids are still young and need a lot of it and b) we live too far away anyway. I would give some things to my sister (if we didn't need them ourselves) but not everything and she wouldn't "expect" it either. I think it IS a bit cheeky and rude to be making comments before you've even had your baby!?!?

As for Thailand.. well, I think if people plan to get married overseas (or sometimes even in another city) then they really have to expect that some of their guests won't be able to make it because of cost or incovenience (TBH I'm sure that's why lots of people plan "destination" weddings! )

Having said that, if you WANT to go *I* think Thailand is perfectly safe for kids, certainly one of the places I am more than happy to travel to with C

*Edit to make sense

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