Language around baby

This has been bugging me for a while, so thought I would ask for your opinions.

Last week I went to Sylvia Park, and ended up feeding OIi in the parents room. Its normally lovely and quiet during the week and I find it easier to give him his bottle in there. So, I am sitting in one of the "cubicles" feeding him, and in the cubicle next to me is a very young looking mum feeding her baby, she had a mate in there with her and they were speaking really really loudly and swearing and cursing, a conversation that would have been right at home in a high school playground or school bus stop (basically b*tching and sl*gging people off).  I felt that the language was really inappropriate for the location, but as they were both quite "agressive" I didnt say anything.

So I guess my question is - if someone is using inappropriate language around your children, even if you dont know them, do you ask them to stop? And does the same apply for babies?

 

I'd like to say that I'd tell them off but in reality I'm not sure I would, as you said there were a couple of them and they were quite aggresive. I think I'd have to judge the situation.

I generally have no issue politely asking complete strangers to do something (teenagers often hang out at one of the playgrounds we frequent and several times I've had to ask them to "get off the equipment if they're not playing" as they sit at the bottom of the slides preventing the kids from using them).

My DH told me awhile ago that he'd been on a train with a young girl and her baby who was upset and he couldn't believe the language she was using talking to her baby telling it to "shut up" etc. I felt so sorry for her and her baby.

I would have loved to have said something too but in those situations I'm more scared that they would then get angry at me and then who knows what they would do.
I've seen people in supermarkets having arguments in front of children and throwing cans etc at each other and there's a child in the way...

Hmm, I'd be inclined not to say anything, as ESPECIALLY if they were aggresive, the safety of me and my child come first, so wouldn't want any physical violence to erupt, or have them personally verbally abuse me in front of my child/baby.

I guess it's a hard one, as how you put it to them? "Aah, excuse me, your language is not appreciated in this environment" maybe?? But you wouldn't want to come across in a stern way, as this could put their back up.

I do feel sick when I hear parents speak to their child in horrible language, directing it at the child.

Really Emma, Deborah's said something to the parent?? wow, she's brave! How did she go about it?

The fact that the woman didn't say anything back, probably made her realise she shouldn't have said it. If she had a fair enough reason (is there one??) to speak to a young child like that, then she would've.. maybe(?) debated it with Deborah.

Ah, terrible words regularly jump out of my mouth (though not at Hannah. Well... not usually ) but I did tell a kid off for swearing in front of Hannah the other day. SO HYPROCRITICAL! But then he called his mates 'c##ks###ers' which I did think was terrible rude! And he was about 10! He did look very embarrassed and mumbled "Sorry miss." Wasn't a bad kid at heart.

I sort of have a general rule that I don't swear AT people. I know that doesn't excuse it, but it is something I don't tolerate.

Hannah knows that swearing is bad and tells me off all the time.

Oh, and back on track - I think that language in the parents room sounds a bit terrible too!

I've told children off for running around a shop yelling and upsetting Eva, when she was in her pram. They were about 10 and apologised.

I probably wouldn't have said anything to the couple about the swearing, but might have asked them to quieten down, if they were being loud.

Forgot to add I like Emma hav never had any problems with the toddlers/pre schoolers/ and older kids swearing, they know it is a big no no no..... Infact Lesieli has pulled me up for my potty mouth and I have had to apologise on a few occassions.