help! anyone had 2 c-sections?

just wanted to add......if anyone has had their first c-section and hoping for a VBAC next time, please don't worry, alot of women carry on to deliver vaginally next time   i don't want to upset any of you

Damnit. Just typed a big post and the frigging thing didn't work.

Anyway...

Vanessa, I think you did a brilliant job getting as far as you did. Births have that horrible nature of working against everything you plan for And it is entirely normal to be really emotional at this point... I think with me it was being a single mama that used to set me off crying every few minutes (that and losing my toothbrush).

I don't mean to dismiss your concerns, but don't be too worried about feeling teary about it at this stage. Mention it to your midwife when she next comes and she can reassure you... or if it continues to be a major concern, refer you to someone who can provide help. But remember that most of all you are a wonderful mother, and that is more important than any birth experience.

I felt quite down after my C-section and it will pass, just look at it this way.

Whether you give birth naturally or need medical help you have still given your daughter the greatest gift any mother can and thats life.

I like to think now that everything happens for a reason, you just may never know why but try not to be too hard on yourself, you sound like a great mum which is far more important achievement than a natural birth.

Hi Vanessa. I had my 2nd emergency c-section just over 4 months ago now.
I was all keen for a VBAC & I was reassured that everything was fine Bubs was in a good position yadda yadd yadd...
I managed to go into labour all by myself (didn't do that last time) and within 6 hours I was 5 cms dilated & everything was looking so good! 3 hours later though I was told that I hadn't progressed any further, so off for a another c-section I went.
At the time I was like "okay no big deal at least I tried".
But now when I run things over in my head there are so many things I would have done differently & I'm really quite bitter I didn't even get to the pushing stage. I didn't have a midwife I knew with me & I think that made a huge difference because I didn't want to argue with the doctor by myself.

Also, while I have no intention of having any more babies at this stage, if I did have another one then I would be trying for a VBA2C! There is a lady on the TradeMe parenting messageboard who has had 6 c-sections and for has been trying for a VB for the last 2 & also planning one for her next baby (once he/she is conceived). She has done HEAPS of research & gave me lots of info of how I could do things different to up my chances and also about the risks of trying again after a failed trial of labour.

Hiya
I had an emergency C-section after a 40 hour labour. Amelia is my first baby, but it didn't stop me from crying (I tried really hard not to) when they told me I'd have to have a c-section because she went posterier when I was 9½cms.
She then had breathing problems and was whisked off to intensive care for 12 hours, so I then had that to deal with as well.

It's really hard when you have your heart set on birthing a particular way, and totally natural to feel upset about the outcome. I don't have any real advice for you to make you feel better, but we are here to listen if you need us. Hope you feel better soon - remember you only gave birth a week ago and will still have thousands of those frigging hormones running around!