Big fat RANT

I am so p*ssed off. We just can't seem to get ahead EVER. Tonight we tried to buy a new house. It's not hugely flash, it's lovely and a nice step up from where we are now - we need it because we've only really got two bedrooms here and it's not working with two kids. The market is in a recession and we've been looking for 18 LONG months to find a decent house that meets our standards/needs in a certain area for schooling so that we can settle down as a family. We thought this was finally it.
No. We didn't get it. And it looks like it'll go for much more than we thought it was worth and more than we are willing to afford (there's only so much debt we can sustain).
Never before have I agreed with those people moving overseas, but now I can bl**dy see why it's so attractive. We get NO assistance from anywhere. We never have, apart from student loans and we've paid both of those back. No allowances while students, no benefits or the working for families thing or anything. And if I went back to work we'd only be a smidgen better financially and our family would suffer.
I am just SO SICK of struggling and living in a house that is difficult and not good for us or our kids and not being able to move ahead even a little bit even though we've been working our ASSES off for five years. It's like we're being punished for having kids and trying to do well.
I just can't see any way out and the whole 'there's a reason for everything/it will work out in the end' philosophy I've been clinging too seems to have lost its final glimmer and died.

I know we are better off than some people and I am thankful for what we have, but I am struggling to see the point of anything at the moment.

Well done for reading that. I'm off to bed with that off my chest. Kind of. Still angry.

I hear you on the going overseas bit. I am thinking seriously of heading that way if I ever want a chance at buying a house myself.

xoxoxoxoxoxoxox Mazz

we are the same. we have a huge mortgage and huge debt but love our house even though it isnt exactly what we want and the location is perfect for us but of course the big mortgage is a long term thing so we have to decide if we should stay in this house and be poor forever, sell and move to a house that we dont like as much but be better off or just sell and move to Aussie and start again. And its annoying cos we have tried the 'money making ideas' but they seen to backfire on us and we are worse off than we were 5 years ago and there doesnt seem a way out. We supposedly make to much money to get any sort of benefit even though some weeks we can hardly even afford to eat! So frustrating

Glad you are feeling better Mazzy. If it helps, we looked at 100+ houses over 18 months before we found our first house, and it was sooo worth the wait! It suited us so much more than lots of the other ones we'd seen, and we got a really good deal on it too.
Hang in there ok? And yay for winning stuff