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mummy_becks 
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 12:04pm |
I am at a loss now with Josh. Since we moved he hasn't eaten anything but bread, chippies and crackers. He used to eat a good diet (apart from meat and i'm not worried about the meat) and a varied diet, but now he screws his face up at everything we offer him. Nigel did manage to get into him 5 mouthfuls of weetbix this morning but other than that nothing.
Any ideas??
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BuzzyBee
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 12:08pm |
No advice Becks sorry  but you're not alone. Lucas is on a hunger strike too and it's driving me batty! I'm so sick of him wasting food and me stressing that he's not getting enough. He too will only eat chips or marmite sandwiches atm- day 5 now.
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 12:15pm |
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My mantra:
As a parent, your responsibility is to provide the food and Josh's responsibility is to eat it.
They learn pretty fast that they can wrap you around their little finger.
I would keep serving normal food that you expect he should be able to eat (maybe not a whole plate of brocolli IYKWIM) and if he doesn't eat it then tough. That's his problem.
I also wouldn't try and compensate by giving more milk after dinner etc.
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 12:18pm |
Becks he's probably still a bit unsettled and maybe comfort eating. Even though it's exciting to be back with daddy it's also a new environment and it's a lot for their wee minds to get around.
The only advice I can give both of you is to just keep offering a variety of healthy foods. I would offer what you want him to eat first and leave him with it for about 20 mins.
It's important to remember that toddlers won't let themselves starve. You can either leave his meal out for 20-30 mins then take it away and not offer anything else until the next meal time (that'll get quick results) but if you think that's a bit harsh after the 20-30 mins has elapsed make him a sandwich.
I personally wouldn't give chippies because it's like you're rewarding behaviour that you're not happy with.
Good luck both of you.
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 12:33pm |
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Ditto what they others have said. Kids go through these phases and if we give in and just provide those foods, the phases will last longer. He is probably a bit unsettled by the move but in saying that comfort eating isn't the best thing to encourage so why not try so special activities together to help him adjust to the new place. As the others have said, keep offering the healthy choices (and be prepared to throw lots away for a while) and he will eventually eat a greater variety again.
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 12:51pm |
Yeah but what about when you DO offer healthy choices day in, day out and it's just constantly being thrown at you/or in the bin?
Offering the good food isn't our problem here, neither is me feeding him chips ...I refuse to give him junk, he gets it from other family members  (the problem with living with your family, they spoil them and offer far too many treats)
I personally think cut down milk intake & if he won't eat meals then too bad, get him down from the table and he can starve. Easier said than done, but I'm having to resort this now with lucas. No booby if he doesn't eat food, eventually he will realize he can't continue with this saga
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caitlynsmygirl
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 12:58pm |
 Mum2Lucas wrote:
Yeah but what about when you DO offer healthy choices day in, day out and it's just constantly being thrown at you/or in the bin?
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*cough* throw it back ....now that would be entertaining ! 
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 1:01pm |
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ok you have witnessed what a horrible little bugger Daniel can be to feed lol...
I just continued to offer and offer and offer the foods. Not long after his birthday I got so fed up with him not eating (by that stage it had been well over a month of not wanting to eat) that I just forced it down him. I did that for a week and now he eats really well lol.
I sound like a mean mummy but hey it worked.
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 1:04pm |
Steph, you're doing exactly what I would. If he's not hungry enough for his meals then tough luck.
I know it's hard with other household members about (yesterday afternoon Michaela was given 2 artificial nonsense packed iceblocks, and for the first time in weeks threw screaming temper tantrums... might be conincidence. I also found a packet of baby eskimos in the pantry - and threw them out). Stay staunch and everytime they give Lucas something you don't want him to have remind them that you don't like him having it and why. The other week I took a bag of hot chips off Michaela straight after MIL gave them to her, I was so annoyed that I had to do that but sometimes you need to. Remember you'll be out soon (whereas I'm stuck indefinitely  )
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 1:16pm |
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Apparently with some kids it takes a loooong time too. I have several friends with fussy eaters and they just offered vege etc every night and after a good year or more, the kids eventually got the hang of it.
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 2:09pm |
nikkiwhyte wrote:
My mantra:
As a parent, your responsibility is to provide the food and Josh's responsibility is to eat it.
They learn pretty fast that they can wrap you around their little finger.
I would keep serving normal food that you expect he should be able to eat (maybe not a whole plate of brocolli IYKWIM) and if he doesn't eat it then tough. That's his problem.
I also wouldn't try and compensate by giving more milk after dinner etc. |
io agree - except maybe withthe milk thing...
but yeah dont give him the option of the "bad" food.
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 2:27pm |
Olivia does this from time to time from teething (which is coming to an end YAHOO!), I keep pushing the good stuff and the other things are as a treat. If it has to be bread then put marmite or ham and cheese in it and make it a whole grain bread. If it's chippies he wants then find an alternative at your bin inn like banana chips (hey, worked here  ). If he is only eating crackers then slather some hummus on it. I also just keep leaving food in front of Olivia as well and cut down on snacking. If she wont eat her dinner and is hungry an hour later she gets her dinner reheated and offered.
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mummy_becks
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Posted: 02 July 2008 at 2:51pm |
Thank you so much I am going to try some of your ideas tonight. I am not fussed if he doesn't eat his meat as he has never been a big meat fan.
As we are heading back to Palmy tomorrow I will get a few things you have suggested as well.
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Posted: 03 July 2008 at 8:35pm |
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Becks, I am guessing that he is comfort eating out of the anxiety of the move etc as well. So I'd let the chippies run out (even if some of them just run to a high shelf out of sight) until he has no choice. Also, given his age, I'd check him for temperature.
He's probably young enough that you could serve up a couple of chippies plus soft carrot plus whatever else and he'll eat a bit of all and believe that the chippies have run out?
I think the best thing is probably to all eat the same things at the same time.
Hope things settle down quickly.
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