Pros & Cons

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   For us, no amount of material things (less money etc) can even relate to having a child. Being on the bones of your ass is just something you do if you need to. My parents did it, it definitely didn't affect my upbringing.

As for the social life thing, ours has changed, but my life as I know it definitely hasn't ceased to exist. We see our friends (none of whom have kids) as much as we used to, its just that we usually host here so that we don't have to take Jack out. When we have 2 its going to be a lot harder to go out at night.

Also, my parents have DS once a month so we get a good lie in together and can go out. I also have him in care 2 days a week while I work part time which gives me a bit of sanity.

While I never imagined myself having children this young (22), we decided due to health issues it was a goer and now when we kick the kids out by 20 at the latest we'll still be in our forties and can paint the town red if we want to!

You also need to remember, that the early mornings, lack of income etc is only short term. Kids are forever, this stuff is only for a few years. When they get to 8,9,10 they get themselves up in the mornings and you can sleep till 9 if you want to. That's what gets me through sometimes!