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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 3:16pm |
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My step-son is nearly two years old now and we only just sorted out that he would call me by my name so that as he gets older he has the choice of what to call me. I think my name is fine, it is simply a label and it is the way someone says my name to how i react to it!
Since this issue was sorted we hit another bump, what he should call my parents. He already has two grandmothers and grandfathers so they have their respective names "nana" etc so I don't think they should be named as "grandparents". I know my parents adore him and I know that if they were called by their first names they would feel a little hurt and disrespected. Does anyone have any ideas? Their first names are Janelle and Gareth so even something derived from that...
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jem
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 3:24pm |
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hmmm i can see how that could be difficult. i was kinda lucky that when i got a step dad i was 11. mum wanted me to call him uncle of all things but there was no way i was doing that. and i went by his name.
but since hes only 2 thats a bit harder.
maybe you could attempt talking to ur step son and see what he wants (they are usually alot smarter than given credit for)
if that doesn't work maybe used uncommon grandparent names like
momo and poppels (sp?)
or ummmmm
Janers and gaga hmmm that could sound bad
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 3:34pm |
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What about Nanny and poppa or grandy? My daughter calls my mum nanny..
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 3:34pm |
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I was going to suggest an uncommon grandparent name too.
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 3:36pm |
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Or Nanny and Poppy.. They sound good together :) My daughter doesnt have a grandad, my dad isnt around and her grandad on her dads side died last month so not sure what else..
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 3:43pm |
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Try getting him to say there names - they are not 'easy' names for a little child (like Tom or Di). He may come up with something that could stick like 'Nel and 'Gar. The 'J' sound is quite hard for most little ones .
My daughter calls her "Grandma" and "Grandpa" 'mama' & 'papa' because she couldn't say the whole thing to start with. On the other side she has Nana and BC - he didn't want a traditional label from when his first gandchild was born so his nickname was used and has stuck for a three kids (and the rest of the family)
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 3:51pm |
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Nanny Jan and Grandpa Gareth - by including the first names it makes them different from the other grands, but nanny and grandpa explains that these are old people who are part of the extended family.
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 3:59pm |
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Thank you for all your advice! I may just end up doing the same thing as what we did with me, simply tell him their names and let him choose! Prob will come up with his own names for them. I just hope my parents accept that, although it is a lot better than the awkwardness of names when he is around, like normally you say "go show daddy that" but when we are at my parents is sort of "go show... ah... him that" and I point at my dad, it was just a way of by-passing the situation!
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 4:53pm |
Iv had this conversation with a few people before and there stepkids have made up names themselves.
My kids have made up names for my mum (even though shes their maternal gran not step), my first use to call her "Mayma" (his way of grandma) and my youngest calls her "Nanma" and DHs dad (their only grandfather other than the greats) is "Pampa" (grandpa) 
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 5:38pm |
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My daughters father has been with his wife since I was 7 weeks pregnant (I mean they got together then ) , so her parents have always been like another set of Grandparents to her, she calls them Nana Linda and Granddad Alan .
its my husbands parents who have only known her since she was 3 and a half that I have more trouble with on the "what to call them front "
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 5:38pm |
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Slightly similar situation, my Dad has re-married and my nieces call his wife by her name. I'll be the same with my children as my mother is deceased and therefore she's not really nana.
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 6:08pm |
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What about Nana J and Poppa G?
My brother's (ex) partner's kids called my mum Nana Pinecone of all things because she went pinecone hunting with them once and it stuck.
Have you asked your parents what they're comfortable with - they may have some ideas for you.
If you have other children with your partner they are going to be half siblings with your stepson and what would they call your parents?
When we were younger we had two elderly "grandmotherly" figures who were friends of the family and we called them Granny Reid and Nana Harden so doesn't even have to be immediate family members who can wear the grandparent name proudly.
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Posted: 13 April 2009 at 10:52pm |
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Ellen, I was going to say the same thing - do your parents have any other grandkids and if so, what are they called? Would they feel comfortable being called the same by your step son?
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Posted: 14 April 2009 at 9:04am |
We just had this same situation, with a slight twist, but my new SIL came for easter with her Brother & Alia was interested in writing his name, so he spelt out BOB, she knew it instantly wasnt right but now his name has Bob attached on the end, quite cute as it makes his name more like an endearment & it's different that what the rest of us call him.
So all you need is for your stepson to hang out with your parents & let them come up with what to call them
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Posted: 14 April 2009 at 9:20am |
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My mum is called Nana Sue, by here step grandchildren. And some of these children have 6 plus grandparents.
I guess if your step son is a big part of your life then it should be carried through to you parents etc. You can never have too many grandparents either.
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Posted: 14 April 2009 at 9:41am |
Yeah I agree with Kate lots of grandparents rock - heaps more people to spoil you  I had 4 grandmothers and 4 grandfathers that were related to me and then grandparents of extended family that ended up belonging to me too. It was awesome. Lots of love!
We have a similar situation to you too though with Jake. He has his bio fathers parents and my parents but then he has my partners mum too. We just use the name her other granddaughter uses. I think family is what you make it and there shouldn't be a problem with your parents being your stepsons grandparents.
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Posted: 14 April 2009 at 10:33am |
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I like the idea of letting him choose :) I have issues with my stepmothers side of the family and they are all called by their first names. On my stepfathers side however, I score an extra nana :) She's earned that though too
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Posted: 14 April 2009 at 1:10pm |
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What about asking your parents what they would like? Children generally adapt names anyway, my grandmother was to be nana but we called her wowie, no one knows how we came up with it but it stuck and every grandchild after us called her wowie too.
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Posted: 15 April 2009 at 8:23pm |
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I'd also second asking. when Jake was born, my step mother was right there (well, not literally) and "come to Gran' and that was it - she is "gran", even though I call her Ruth.
My boys have four nanas (my mum, DH's mum, My nana and DH's nana) and one Gran - they figure it out and love all the attention
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