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 Posted: 08 January 2007 at 5:10pm |
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hehhee u go girl i hope she starts to feel guilty!!!! She doesnt deserve to know u or roland or erin!
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Posted: 08 January 2007 at 5:23pm |
Well you already know what I think and what I've said so all I'll add is a few more of these... 
B also had an interesting question...is the rest of the family more worried about your bio g/ma being upset hearing from you or upset you were kept from her? Thought to ponder.
What your bio mother is saying is just a guilt trip and nothing more...I don't believe for one moment someone would have a heart attack upon reading your letter.
Anyway...you know I'm here for you!
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Posted: 08 January 2007 at 5:30pm |
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oh jax! sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. I honestly feel that you wanting a relationship - or even to know about your bio grandmother is between YOU and HER and really doesn't have much to do with your bio-mum at all. As for bad heart and causing heart attcks...that happens on the movies only (my entire family has dodgy hearts and if my uncle - who had a heart transplant - can learn he has a daughter he's never seen 2 days after having surgery - and be okay - I'm sure anyone will be)
Big hugs to you and your family. i really valued your supporr in my hard family time so hope you are able to yell out if you need someone to chat to.
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Posted: 08 January 2007 at 5:35pm |
I'm hopeful she'd be more upset that I was kept from her, but I know for 100% sure that my bio mom and her sisters are more worried about what will happen to them if she finds out about me. That's why I told her (just before I blocked her) that I wasn't going to be threatened into feeling guilty (since I haven't done anything wrong).
Roksana - if they continue to carry on like this, then I most definitely will not be keeping ties with them, I will give them a BIG heave-ho 
Maria - Good luck with contacting your half siblings, these kinds of things can make for an interesting journey, that's for sure !
Liz - thanks for the offer, I will keep it in mind 
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Posted: 08 January 2007 at 7:30pm |
Hey, Jax, hope it all sorts out. It is their loss in the end. Interseting that you say it seems to be more about the "trouble" they will get into, more than what the outcome of your bio gma finding out... how old are they, 12? are they going to get, like, totally grounded?
chin up, Girl.
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Posted: 08 January 2007 at 8:26pm |
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Quite right Annie, and it's not like they live with her or take care of her either... I heard that my bio g/dad is in a home or hospice, but the bio g/ma still lives at their old house. Who knows really! And interestingly enough neither of the sisters have ever had kids, and then there's my bio mom who had two, never told her parents, and gave them away !
Mind you, that said - it is the ONE thing I am grateful to her for, giving me up for adoption rather than raising me herself. That might sound harsh, but it's true.
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Posted: 08 January 2007 at 9:00pm |
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So have you met or tracked down your father too?
I hope you do find your biological sister = that would be a good new relationship to come out of all of this.
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Posted: 08 January 2007 at 9:41pm |
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Well the letter's gone now, so guilt-trips be gone! lol
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Posted: 08 January 2007 at 10:35pm |
 Bombshell wrote:
So have you met or tracked down your father too?
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No, I'm afraid not... I don't think it would come as much of a surprise if I said that my bio mom "doesn't remember much" about him... so I have a first name, that he liked tinkering with motorcycles, that he was 5'5" and that is pretty much it. Pah.
As far as my bio-sister goes, it might be a bit easier, considering I know her first name, and could easily find the surname if I did some "research". You're right too, in that it would be a good thing to come out of it all, but we shall see...
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Posted: 08 January 2007 at 11:40pm |
Sorry to hear your situation But I have to agree with everyone else. You and your family are better off without them. Goodluck finding your bio sister.
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Posted: 09 January 2007 at 7:28am |
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but what if your sister still doesnt know she is adopted, would you tell her?
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Posted: 09 January 2007 at 9:29am |
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If she is of legal age, yes, but I would probably also try and talk to her parents first before I did something like that...
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