Hormoney 2nd time Mum RANT

Ok, I feel like a REAL heel for doing this, but I am kinda cheesed off about this.

Let me start off by saying I love my midwife, she is wonderful and fantastic, and I think she is just awesome.

But, because she is so awesome, she is super busy..

Thing is, I kinda feel, though, that cos we are doing so well, no problems, I am feeling great, baby is doing wonderfully, and it is my second time round, so I *kinda* know what I am doing that we are "on our own" a bit. Last week, I saw her 3 times. Last time was on the friday, I hadn't heard from her by 5 o'clock, so I assumed she had gotten busy, so wouldn't see her. She came round on her way home, about 7.30 or so, which was great. I was meant to see her again on monday. No phone call, nothing. She usually makes her house calls in the afternoon, so I have been careful to stay home in the afternnons and limit visitors. Tuesday, nothing. Wednesday, I saw her briefly, she came and weighed the baby, but had to leave, so said she would come back today to check my stitches... No phone call, nothing.

Now, I know I am not her only mum/mum to be, but like I said, I kinda feel like cos I'm a second timer, I'm kinda on my own.

Rant over, just wondered if any other 2nd/3rd.4th timers ever felt liek this? I am feeling kinda hormoney, though. It's just hit me that my Dad is dead, we have got this HUGE fundraiser going on here for the cancer society this weekend, called Relay for life, a 24 hour relay walk thing, and everytime I see something about it, I burst into tears thinking about my dad.

More Annie! Thats gotta be hard for you!

I was left on my own second time as well Annie - and it does suck, cause people assume that you know, but first of all, it was a while ago, and secondly, it's a differnt baby who doesn't respond in the same way! I was lucky I had a lot of family support. I remember with jake the midwives were telling me about some breastfeeding talk and the mum next to me said to her, "oh when is that on" and she looked at her and said "this is your second baby - you should already know about all of that" and wlaked off.

big hugs about your dad Annie!!! It is tough!!!

HUGS chick...This isnt really about the midwife at all is it? I can imagine that the grief is just setting in now...and it probably comes with a huge kicker of missing your dad. You had to deal with it all at a very difficult time with all going on....and now with hormones etc I bet you are feeling it all worse than ever...

I send you a great big hug...It is awful to miss those that we love but have passed at times like this...I know that i burst into tears at my wedding reception when someone mentioned my much loved aunt who had passed...some two years prior....

feel your dads presence and savour it...and know we are here to chat whenever....

and take it easy on the midwife...its not really about her....HUGS!!!!

Edited by Bombshell

i like what bombshell said and agree...

but also it may help if your mw was a bit more thoughtful. perhaps explain to her the hard time you are going thru and ask her to ring you when she is coming. i also wouldnt stay home just in case she called in. busy doesnt excuse no manners.

Yeah it hard 2nd time round and onwards. After I had Alize my midwife visited me a total of 4times and d/charge me from care when Alize was 5wks old ( she was an awesome mw thou, had her for last 2 pregnancies) I hated it as I have big caps between my kids so my last baby was 6yrs old and it would have been nice to have her support and advice (esp since Alize had bad reflux). When I had my oldest daughter I was 17yrs old and that MW only visited me once to chk my C/S wound .

Wish I lived closer so I could help Annie... !

Oh, and you'll be pleased to know I bought Erin a silver baby bangle from MH the other day

I'm not sure, but I know after I had Taine, I had massive cramps - they said that it was the uterus contracting back and that with second babies you felt it more - it's not that is it Annie?

Well, no contact monday, I do know she is out in picton on mondays so that was no surprise. By wednesday, the hormones are getting on top of my, I'm crying or tearing up at anything (thank God for my friend Anna)and Charlotte won't settle, only having tiny not even 5 minute feeds, has an awful rash, so wed arvo I ring. She calls in on her way home, baby is ok, probably just hot (it has been very hot here), she looks like has had a growth spurt. I will weigh her tomorrow and check on your stitches and look at your tummy tomorrow (thursday)(still having pains) Well, it is now friday night and I AM STILL WAITING, and last night my tummy was so sore, it woke me up and I couldn't get back to sleep. it felt like I had been slammed in the stomach with a brick. Really can't afford $70 for after hours DR, or even $50 for my own come monday (well, mr Visa can..) She hasn't looked at my stitches for 2 weeks today!! I don't even know if I still have any! Actually, I think I do still have at least one, I can feel it...

So I will be ringing monday, Picton clinic or not. AAARRRGGGHHH

I guess that is what happens when you get a good and popular midwife, and I guess I should stop saying I feel fine and good, and chough up to feeling very hormoney and fragile.

Annie that is so bad. I too haven't seen my MW this week. She rang on Monday to see how Joshua's colouring is and then said i'l see you on Thursday, she didn't call or come around and nothing today. If I don't hear from her i'll be calling my antenatal MW and go and see her to get JOshua weighed. I so understand you feelings at the moment.