Midwife & third baby

I was wanting to know if other 2nd, or 3rd time mums have noticed the attention is a little less from their midwife?

I've loved my midwife all along, even though I've noticed she does things a little different from other midwives I've heard of. For instance she's always discharged me 4 weeks after baby was born, when majority stay around till 6 weeks. I've never had any problems after baby was born so guessed she thought I could cope fine without her, in which I did, but still I enjoyed seeing her every week & having baby weighed weekly. Also I've heard you should get a pack of nappies or some decent sort of post-baby pack when you get home. All I've ever had from her was a pack of breast pads - once - whoopee!

This pregnancy, as much as she was excited for me, I feel she's not as attentive. Usually first visit you get your pregnancy book & pack. I never got one. It wasn't until I saw the Backup midwife at 15 weeks that I asked for my own pregnancy book (the one they record BP, heartbeat, movement etc). She looked at me with a ? look as if to say "you mean you haven't got one yet". She got one for me, then I misplaced the book & so last visit to my MW I asked for another one & she too looked at me with a ? & said "have I not given you one yet" I said no (which was true she hadn't) & then went off to do my pee on a stick & came back, had our usual check & she still didn't get one for me. I then found my original anyway once I remembered where I'd misplaced it...

Am I reading into this too much?? Another reason I really needed my own pregnancy book with her details & the backup MW details, was at 15 weeks when she was on her holiday (though she said she'd still be around town & I could still contact her) I had a bleed & needed to get in touch with her. Her mobile was off & I didn't have the backup MW number. I was fretting, & had to dig up my old pregnancy books to find the backup MW number which was then out-of-date. I ended up having to ring the delivery suite at the hospital to ask what I should do with having had this bleed.

A few days after, I tried calling my MW again just to talk things over with her (after spending a few hours at A&E & having a scan to find baby was ok, but bleed had come from behind the placenta). Again her mobile was off so I left a message. She never got back to me. I felt really let down.

So really I'm just curious if the more babies you have... the less attention a MW will give you? Or is it just mine? She's been wonderful throughout my births & I feel totally as ease with her.

Yep, I did, I had a big ranty rant about it back in feb/march. I love my M/W to bits, but I really felt that it was like I "should know it all". I found it was the same in hospital as well. I did end up sorting it out with her, though, as I was getting very upset about it.

I feel every pregnancy & baby is special, though a little different to having your first, I still would've thought I'd have the same amount of concern/attention with this pregnancy.

This pregnancy has been a lot more stressful for me - with having the bleed then finding out the placenta is sitting low in the front & if it doesn't move up then I'll need a c-section. Also with having a 3 ½ y.o & 18 mth old I'm very busy & tired & DH doesn't seem to be very helpful at the moment so more stress there.

Its bugged me a little bit about her not calling me after I left a message for her. But if all MW think "the more babies you have, the less attention you'll need" attitude then I guess mine isn't so bad afterall! I know the nurses think that after each baby you have & don't help you nearly enough.

Well my midwifes been fantastic and this is my second baby but as there is such a huge gap she's really treating it as a first baby.

I'll let you know with the next one.