God Parents & Guardians

I have my sister and her DF as Jody's god parents. It doesn't really mean much, just makes them feel a bit special I guess
I suppose if it was a close friend instead of a relative I would view them us a sort of uncle/aunty to Jody?

Hey Meggs

We have actually just asked two couples that we are close friends with to be this babys godparents. So if they are happy to go ahead we will have two sets. I wrote up a list of things that I would like them to consider as being things we kind of would like to expect from them if ya get what I mean....

These are them here

Our “godparents” will be basically honorary “aunties and uncles”

Someone we trust that the child can come to if they don’t feel they can talk to us.

Be an honorary member of our family, and will hopefully make an effort to come to birthdays for bubs. (no that doesn’t mean you have to shower them with gifts either)

There for guidance throughout their life, to give them advice when they need it (whether they choose to take it or not) but so they have other peoples perspectives on life)

We hope that you will share with our child, a special interest in his or her upbringing and development - and we hope that, as the years roll by, you will continue to maintain a special relationship with the child

No expectations to take on the child’s care should we die.

Although DP and I are both catholic we are not practising and have come to the conclusion the child can choose the religion they would like when they are old enough to do so. I've heard of a lot of people getting their child baptised just so they can goto catholic schools and I'm not too keen on that.

Hope this has helped a little

We are trying ti decide this as well. Tom has DH's brother and DH's cousin. For James I want SIL but because she isnt catholic we need to find a catholic godfather and this is annoying the hell out of me. I want some say in all this as I see godparents as someone to help nuture and guide your child through life (not necessarily the church) so I think religion is a minor consideration.....but I guess that defeats the purpose of baptising them catholic (its important to DH).

I think I am going to get around it by appointin a copule of close friends to be their "fairy godmothers" (didnt think I could call them anti-godmothers ).

I belive that 'Guide Parents' are the humanist/atheist alternatives to God Parents

We are god parents to DPs bestfriends son. He knows us as aunty and uncle and we are basically that. We made sure he got attn when his bro and sis were born and look after him vand play with hm. I know we were written in the life insurance to take him if they passed with the thought if we couldn't take him then he would go to his grandad on her side. This may have changed since the twins were born and we may have to seriously consider it if it did happen now that we have our own.

We love all three of the kids and they have been the calming factor in our lives more often then not. That I think is the most important thing. Our old flatmates daughter doesn't see one set of godparents now as the father and hr split up and they stopped talking to these particular friends

thanks everyone for your thoughts and ideas it's been really helpful and great to hear what you have all done for your little ones :)
bex, i love the list idea and what you've put pretty much sums up what we were thinking of too!! it's def given us something to think about :)

Emma, so your godfathers are "aunty" too?