Give in to a Dummy???

he he, although if she is fine during the day, and only feeding heaps at night - see what your midwife says cos it is normal for them to cluster feed at night time.. although 3 -4 hrs is taking it a bit far. Ayja did that to me for the first 6 days straight (whoever said babies sleep for the first 24 - 48 hours is a liar!) granted, she slowed down a little after my sheer exhaustion ended with a hospital visit.. but she was putting on a pound a week for the first few weeks.. so i figured it was her way of catching up.

Why must i always contradict myself?

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I was anti dummy but I have one at home...but the problem is that Zaara never took one....she would throw a fit when I was using a nipple shield ...man I had to bite the bullet and just feed her!! It was hard and still is hard because she is not a good sleeper But I am use to it now.

Later Zaara used the dummy to ease her teething...he he ha ha.

But what ever works, she might not even take one!! or she might take one and sleep like a baby....hmmm ...you know what I mean!!

I think we gave Isla a dummy too young, before breastfeeding was properly establised. I mean she would feed, and I thought she wouldnt get confused beween the two, and didnt at first, then got to the stage when she would scream til she had the dummy, and when I would take it out and try feed her, she would scream again and go nuts cos she thought I was taking away her food. Very hard.
I would say dont give it 2 her yet, but then its mega hard when they cry all the time and u dont know how to help. Good luck.

I LOVE DUMMIES!!!! Tried to get Alize onto one to help with his reflux but like Mercedes her refused it and now sucks his thumb, finger or fist. I used one with Lesieli and it worked a treat for her reflux and her sleeping. I still remember how much of a god sent it was to me

ok well threat of a dummy worked all day - heres how it went...but then when given to her (yes we gave in)..

she did sooo well yest...slept til 4 fed, slept til 8, fed, slept til 11pm....AND THEN...little monster was UP TIL 1AM AGAIN!!! but wait it gets worse...then she fed and slept finally but only til 3 30am, then til 4 20am, then til 5am...which is when mummy stuck the brand new dummy in her gob and covered her head....til Grannie found us at 6am and told me to feed her once more...little bugger fed and mum put her down (i KOed the minute she unlatched) and is still asleep now...I got woken by rubbish trucks at 8am!!!

Dummy didnt do anything - i finally gave in and gave it to her at 5am!!!!...she sucks, spat and cried, about three times like this...all it did was allow me to go to sleep and then get woken horribly a short time later....

apparently i will be cluster demand feeding for hours at a time for a while yet....

You have all my sympathies, Bombshell!  Sounds really tough going.  Good on you for trying the dummy out, though.  I was anti-dummies too, 'till along came Miss Ella!  Sounds like she and Gabriella have similar feeding issues in the beginning - she just fed and fed and hardly slept, and afternoon/evening consisted of a 5-hour-long feed before she'd finally sleep!!  It was crazy and I was left soooo exhausted.  Eventually my midwife pointed out that Ella is a 'sucky baby' (no insult intended!) - she suckled for comfort and I couldn't keep being her human pacifier.  Some babies just like to suckle - this one sucked on her hand from long before she was born, even.  She did it at her scan, her hand could be felt up by her mouth at my midwife appointments, and she was born with a blister on her hand from sucking it so much!I think she was 4 or 5 weeks old when I gave her one, and it helped settle her for a couple of months (she now refuses it).  I think - if it's easier for you to give her a dummy, give her one.  And if it doesn't work first time, try it again later on.  It's not a cop-out... you've just got to go with what works for you and her.