gutted

Sometimes it feels like we are just treading water. The car needs a warrant this month and will need a new tyre - possibly two. our phone bill is getting further and further in debt, and I despeately want to pay off our overdrafts and finally be "in the black". I have been waiting for my inheritence to helpsort it all out. It's not too much, but enough that it would pay off (most) of our bills and leave a bit of money to go out for dinner or get a few new clothes. Now my bitch aunt has contested - god knows why - he was her ex-father-in-law.   and so i get zilch. We have a wedding to go to over labour weekend that we will have to extend my overdraft to get to (can't not go - already paid for motel) and I was just thinking "well, this inheritance money will help sort everyhting" and now it's not coming. Am so gutted as it just seems I'll never get anything nice, we'll never do anything apart from this 'treading water"

i know that this is completely self-indulgant and i shouldn't complain considering I will (in theory) get it someday, but just got me down as I ewas really counting on it. worst thing is that it is Jake's birthday in three weeks and I wanted to take him to Paradise valley and visit the lions, and now we probably can't, and I feel like I;'ve let him down - i mean, face it, it's not like his birthday coming up was a surprise. i shoulda saved. i guess thats the main reasons, I am disappointed in myself for relying on this money.

blah blah blah. am getting over myself now.

oh lizzle - hugs. I know how you feel although not about the inheritce but money thing and relying on it. Then kicking yourself cause you really shouldn't of relied on it..

Liz that sucks, I know we're never *supposed* to rely on money that hasn't come in yet - kinda like IRD rebates in a way. But we do anyway and it must be so frustrating (infuriating perhaps lol) to have the Estate whipped out from under you like a carpet. I have an idea how you feel. When #2 was a baby someone owed us a couple of grand and after a long talk we decided it was better to wipe the debt (which wasn't being paid) and preserve the friendship. But it was hard and there were "what ifs" and if I be really honest with myself, I would have spent it 3x over anyway lol.

It's left you in a pretty sucky position though. Are you guys ok to manage the phone and HPs and car? I hate it when they all happen at once! Hopefully your power bill will drop noticeably now that we are coming into summer (I think ). I wouldn't worry about the lions. If you have told Jake, change it to a (dress-up?) lion themed party. Otherwise, plan it (on the quiet at this stage of course) for next year. He'll probably enjoy it even more

Don't be too hard on yourself, you've recently moved and that probably bit the wallet a bit too. But maybe you've learnt something out of this experience too. Take care

full sympathy, sometimes it just seems that no matter what we do the good stuff never happens.

BUT it does come right again.

Lizzle big hugs . I know how you feel, my mother always tells us not count our chickens before they hatch but sometime you can't help it. We have been waiting for DH's back pay and his salary payments to be made for 10 weeks now ( a very tidy sum). The other week they were all promised it would be paid including a week of DH holidays and alas he was the only one to not get paid!! We have been waiting on this payment and are really relying on it and it sucks.

As far as the birthday goes don't feel bad I ahve been there and he won't know plus there will be lots of other birthdays and you could do something extra special next year.

Not sure what your situation is but if it's anything like ours we worked out that me working was not worth it, by the time we paid for Childcare etc not to mention time off with sick children and the money we lost through family assistance I would be working for next to nothing.

Anyway hope things work out for you and you don't have to wait too much longer.

i am actually working part-time. have hopefully managed to get another shift next week, but can't really get anything too permanent job-wise as am applying for teaching positions now that start in Jan 08. Am feelinga bit better about things as we are okay - not getting too much into more debt, just as I said, treading water and the extra money would have really helped to make us mor4e comfortable. but am still pissed off with Fay. she is a money-grubbing cow. she was married to my uncle (who died), but they divourced like 23 years ago. and my grandfather left her the same amount as me (and my cousins), yet she is contesting? Grandad left my uncle's current wife (who has since remarried) a share of the house (along with my other uncle and dad), and fay is contesting that. My uncle died after having a heart transplant and died of complications about 8 years later. he was on heavy medication and couldn't work. the medication at times made him very unpleasant to be around (this may have also been the case b'fore the medication), and Sandy (new wife) worked three jobs, and mortgaged her previously free-hold house to help support my uncle and pay for his medical costs. So my grandfather felt she deserved part of the estate. Fay on the other hand has had her hand out for years, and if anyone compl;ains about DPB mums taking advantage of the system - she is the one you are talkiong about - and Palmy ladies - ever heard of a lady breeding rabbits in Awapuni? that was her as well - no blood reltaion - i claim to have no relation to the cow. so annoyed at her feeling as if she has the right somehow to my grandfather's money. Whats worse is that she had 8 months to pu8t in this claim and she left it until 1 week before the...closing time - whatever it is called.

am now ranting i know.

Ah she does sound truly horrible!! Hopefully they keep her out of it. Yuck.