Study, full time work, kid(s).......

I couldn't work full time and study too.. not to mention taking care of a toddler and having to clean the house!! You definately need help with the housework otherwise you might crash after a while!

p.s good to see you back!

kick your man's Butt!

seriously, mike had a few issues at first, but I told him there was no way i could do it all. The only way he was going to get time with me, and happy time not just a grump session, was if he helped out, parenting should be a team effort, just cos dad does something doesn't mean he's the greatest dad in the world.. he is just doing his share and while it should be appreciated, he should accept the reward is a happier household. no medals. lol.

The only way is to get him to help out. otherwise it will take a crash-n-burn situation to make him see a bit of sense and it is not the way to go.

if you cook, dishes are his. and vice versa, if he washes the washing, you'll fold and put away. I used to getup first and get a shower, he'd wake paris and ayja and dress them, if he was running early would get them sorted with brekkie so i would get out of the shower to them eating brekkie, and he'd jump in while i did the daycare bags, had my brekkie and got dressed/makeup, did the girls hair. take turns, work out routines to make things shorter and more fair. we both get up, unless one if really sick or whatever. and on the weekends, we each have a sleep in day, to make up for the early mornings.

make compromises so neither feels like they are doing the lions share. there is nothing wrong with saying "hey look, i'm getting snowed under, I NEED HELP! if you could do this or this then i can get a bit of time to finish this part." I used to show mike my assignments when i got them, and told him what things i had to have done by each week so he had some idea, and he could take over things in the house if i got stuck. I do the same for him too, with his assignments we go through them together and then we both have an idea of what days and weeks are going to be busy and stressful and try to plan then differently.   We did have to start saying no to some social occasions (not big ones, ) just to make sure we kept ourselves sane.

ask for help chick, thruthfully no one can do it all, even if theylook like they can. If mike hadn't helped out so darn much i'd have never finished my nursing.

and coming on here.. was the first place i'd go when i sat down to do assignments. Was my little reward for the hours i knew i was going to spend sitting there over the next few days.

Edited by mum2paris

Hey Lena

Kick David's butt in to gear. Seriously. He needs to take hold of a few tasks at home. You both work fulltime so you both take care of the house. I would tell him that between *pm and *pm you are doing stuff with Arna the house doing the dishes etc. That time is mine to do my assignments. If you can leave the house for a few hours on a Sunday and head to the local library and do some study there. If you do it away from the house he has to be there for Arna and has to do stuff for the house.

I study part-time, but don't work so it IS easier, and this year is a pretty light year for me, but nevertheless, the only way i cope is support from family and hubby. it would be impossible otherwise. The other day my hubby was getting a little slack, so when he actually got off his butt and did something, i went up to him and said thank you so much, i really need help and appreciate your support. After that he did a lot more. I also write lists of what needs to be done. and ask for help A LOT!

When I read your first post I thought you were a single mum!

We both work full time and DH has just completed his law degree (done part time over many years). You have to share the load with day to day things along with raising your child whether you were studying or not....you are working full time.