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    Posted: 20 March 2007 at 3:11pm
Alyssa is almost 8 months old now and I notice she seems to be getting a bit of a temper (just like mummy ).. She kind of whines/growls when she's frustrated or if I put her down somewhere when she would rather be carried around.

What I'm wondering is, would it be more effective to say "no" when she does this, or to ignore her? I have tried saying "no" but it doesn't seem to make any difference... Is this just a phase or has mummy been annoyed at daddy too much around little bubba?
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lol must be an age thing cos' Lycan is the same. But i think he may be teething as well at the moment...but in saying that he will follow me around the house crying and if i know its for no reason i say "No that's naughty behaviour" (like he knows what the means) and just carry on doing what i am doing until he stops and then i give him a cuddle. Sometimes if i rub his head as i walk past that's enough to make him stop.

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Just remember that babies round and about that stage goes through seperation anxiety. They have started to realise that they are actually not totally part of you and that you can sometimes leave. And they might get scared that you are not coming back ect ect.

I dont think ignoring will help. What did work for me is to get down to their level look them in the eye and say Mommy is busy right now but if you allow me to do this and this then Mommy will take time and read you a story or play a game with you. Give them a toy and then continue talking with them while you do your stuff. If it is around other people then i gave her one of her favourite toys and let her sit close to me and play.

They do get over it I promise you. If you see they get really anxious I will actually get some rescue remedy and give them a bit of that or if you dont want to give it to them internally you can rub it into their little wrists. Works as well.



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for a minute there i thought you had seen gabriella in action today...LOL...she is THE bad tempered baby today...good job she cant speak yet....

Alyssa looks far too cute to have a bad temper!!!
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Ella has the MAD temper she growls when she really gets fecked off lol

I just tell her i cant pick her up all the time but i stay near her so she can see me and if she winds herself up to much i pick her up calm her down then put her back down again with toys to play with.
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I'm with Shirena.

Can she crawl/follow you around? If not her frustration might encourage her to learn! It sounds like separation anxiety to me (cause of her age mainly) in which case it helps to bear in mind that she's crying cause she's worried you won't return. When you are with her but need to go do something shortly, see if you can get her interested in a toy first.
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Do they get separation anxiety even when you're not leaving the room, maybe if you're just not holding them? I say this because it's often if I put her on her playmat or in exersaucer and I am only meters away from her in the kitchen or lounge that she will show signs of a temper. No, she's not crawling yet but it is only a matter of time now, so at the moment she can't follow me.
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So you're within sight... sounds like she's being quite clingy for some reason though. Teeth and health okay? She may just be the cuddly type. If you can rule out teeth and health you could certainly try talking to her firmly, eye to eye "I'm busy at the moment but I'll pick you up soon" or something. Is she more clingy when you're grumpy because that can make them adgitated too.
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Oooh I know a baby of a similar age that does the same thing...
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Wow it rings so true with my boy just before he started to crawl at 6 months. He would show his temper by clenchy his fist and letting out a huge grunt and got bright red in the face.
He is now crawling and follows me around the place.
Only until the last month has he started to show his temper again, he is now pulling himself up and wants to walk but his mind and body don't quite connect.
I just try and talk to him during this time and he snaps out of it.

I do know a lady who would pick her child up when this happened and her child grew to know mum would pick her up, so she constantly carried her for months....her child is 1 & 1/2 and only just learnt to crawl.

 

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She is teething so I'm sure that must contribute to the problem, however she has always been quite clingy and maybe early on I did pander to her a lot and go to her as soon as she grizzled. I have conciously tried not to do that for months though...

Amy, yes that's exactly what Alyssa does too! She clenches her fists and goes red as well (accompanied by the grunt)... I hope when she starts being able to crawl and follow me she'll be a little happier?? Unfortunately she is always trying to stand at the moment too and can actually pull herself up to stand on various things, but makes her frustrated as well!

We have always just resigned ourselves to the fact that we have a grumpy baby who seems to have various things happening at once that make her that way. I'm just more worried about the temper because I think she would probably learned that behaviour from me..

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Pepsi, I believe there is nothing wrong by attending to each child differently. Sounds like you have a high need baby that wants lots of contact and there is nothing wrong with it.

Just pay attention to her as much as possible. McKayla with all the moving was exactly the same. So I just continuesly talk to her in a calm relaxed voice as I go on about my day.

They do get independence, I promise you that.

Have you ever looked at the little baboons at the zoo? The babies always cling to the mommy. When they get a bit bigger they go off but as soon as something scares them, Where will you find them? This is exactly the same.

Unfortanetly there is stuff that needs to be done and baby needs to realise that as well. I am sure as soon as she is mobile it will get better. (then watch out for the leg hugging.)

McKayla still wants to be upped on certain days and I just do it as she obviously need it. And other days I can hardly get a hug out of her as she wants to do her own thing.


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My partner has the shortest wick that you could imagine. So we used to say Tyrell has the same temper as his dad.

I now believe it is just his way of letting us know where he is at.
SO I think your daughter isn't a grumpy bubby she is letting you know what she wants. It is just our wee ones all express themselves differently.
We all express our thoughts and feelings differently don't we.....
Just look out when they can talk and really tell us what they think LOL

I believe the above from SMoody says it all though. Just give her the attention she wants, needs and just what you can give.  She will learn, it just takes time and patience from mummy and daddy.  (Our daddy is now having to learn patience LOL)

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Briona had a shorter wick like that as well, once she got crawling (and then walking) she was much happier.
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