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Bizzy 
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 Posted: 02 April 2010 at 5:39pm |
saw this today which may be useful and humorous.
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noisybaby
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Posted: 02 April 2010 at 6:54pm |
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Bizzy thats awesome. I may use it yet
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EmDee
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Posted: 02 April 2010 at 7:51pm |
Lol, that's great Debs!
Also like Sheza said, I found we had less visitors after Lilia was born than when Ollie was born, it was mainly really close family and friends that visited then 
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maisey
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Posted: 03 April 2010 at 2:23pm |
I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. Some great advice from everyone too and I am going to remember it and use it myself!!
A good friend of mine had a note she would put on the door saying, " thanks for calling by, Mum and baby resting, please come back another time."
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caliandjack
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Posted: 03 April 2010 at 3:27pm |
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What a great list Bizzy, will probably use that one myself.
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myonlineself
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Posted: 03 April 2010 at 6:38pm |
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that list is great!
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caraMel
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Posted: 03 April 2010 at 8:20pm |
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I love that list!
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Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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tiptoes
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Posted: 03 April 2010 at 8:21pm |
I remember feeling quite stressed about people dropping in randomly too but luckily very few did and usually the boys so I didn't feel like I had to entertain them. I was going to do one of those signs like maisey suggested. I'd say that's the best idea, to have that permanently up unless you're expecting people (hopefully you won't forget to take it down then  ) and you can peek out your window and decide if you feel like visitors or not.
Or what if you put aside one time period a week like the first two Saturdays from 1-3pm and say that's visiting time and when you send out a text or whatever announcing the new arrival put that on the end.
I was the same as the other girls and if he needed to sleep I whipped him away to bed and only let people have tiny little peeks if he was sleeping.
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anon
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Posted: 04 April 2010 at 1:14pm |
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Next time I will say people are welcome to visit me in the hospital, but when I'm at home, I'm going to say not for the first 4-6wks. That sounds like a long time and maybe things will be different next time, but whenever I had visitors at home during that time.... it was just awful. I couldn't tell them a specific time that Nathan would be awake, so inevitably they would come and he'd be asleep so they wouldn't get to see him anyway. And often people didn't come over and help with housework and I'd have to make them a cup of tea and clean up a bit before they got there. For me that was just awful. And I just didnt really enjoy their visit.
The only visitors I enjoyed were ones that didn't mind me breastfeeding right in front of them, helped me with housework, or cared for the baby when I needed a break - or took me out for coffee when I felt I was going mad. Otherwise they were just a burden - even people dropping off dinner wanted to stop and chat and I just didn't want to!
In the hospital it's different because I wanted visitors otherwise it was just me and the medical staff! Unless I was of course trying to breastfeed.
4-6wks might seem a long time but as someone once pointed out to me - they don't look that much different whether they are 1 week old or 6wks old... You've got to do what helps you the most.
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anon
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Posted: 04 April 2010 at 1:20pm |
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P.S. I love that list! Glad I'm not the only one who wants people to just drop off food and go hahaha! But you feel like you "owe it to them" to chat and show them the baby - ugh!
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NandC
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Posted: 04 April 2010 at 3:02pm |
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We said visitors welcome at the hospital but not at all for the first week at home - worked out well - the only people that showed up at home were my mum (who bought food and did laundry) and DHs sister who flew over from Aussie (planned well before the birth). Having everyone at the hospital was great - people dont hang around too long (not enough seats!) and you dont need to make tea and coffee and play hostess. And even now 4 months on I get people to txt before they come over to 'check that we are home' (I have been known to lie and say we are out!
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Am I being unreasonable
