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Samandtia 
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 10:26am |
I need other people's opinions because I can't make up my mind....so here goes and sorry about the novel that's about to follow....
My daughter is turning 1 in a few weeks and I have been wondering whether I should or shouldn't have a birthday party for her. I have always really wanted to make a celebration of her 1st with kids running around, lots of party food and a great cake (that I would have attempted to bake  )! But we have been in NZ for 3 yrs and we don't have family & friends here, more people that my husband and I work with and may sometimes go out with. In the past year since I had my daughter I have seen the girls I used to work with TWICE! So if I was to have a party it would just be people from my husbands work and none of them have kids except one 4 year old, a 5 yr old and a 2 yr old who my daughter and I have never really met. It would be more of a "get together" for the adults with a cake... OR we could just do something with just the 3 of us on her actual birthday.... but my mum disagrees with this and says that we should invite people over. So am I being a real sad sack if I don't have people over to celebrate her 1st birthday? When I ask my husband he says "It's up to you..." so no help there! Any opinions would be great so I can make up my mind! Her bday is in a few weeks  
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freckle
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 10:42am |
I would probably do something with just the three of ya... it sounds like that would be more of a special birthday kinda thing for ya wee girl than a party with mainly adults... there's plenty of time for big birthdays 
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 10:48am |
I agree with Freckle. If you invite your DH's workmates then it isn't really about the birthday but more an adult get together. We don't have any kids yet and we tend to avoid friend's kids' bday parties as I think it should be more about the children than the adults. But in saying that, one year old parties are always about the adults because the child has no idea what's going on anyway!
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 11:10am |
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I agree..do something with the 3 of you. I don't know where you live but the zoo is a good one if near, or lollipops we have done those.
For DS1 first we had a small family party & a few friends not really many kids & one of the ladies got drunk & we could not get rid of her. We had been out for the day & then had a BBQ about 4ish so DS1 was pretty tired & did not last long lol..
We did not have parties for DS2 & 3 we went out & then in the afternoon the g/parents & BIL/SIL & 2 cousins came over for afternoon tea.
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 11:15am |
Agree with your hubby do what you want. She's not going to remember her 1st Birthday so its as much about the 3 of you as her.
Childrens parties should be for the children. Eventually she'll have lots of friends and want big parties, may as well make the most of a smaller gathering while you still can.
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 11:55am |
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I don't think its sad at all if you have something special with the 3 of you , truth is ,as the others have said , she isn't going to remember her first birthday (or in my experience , her second and maybe not her third either ) so the first celebration ,is really a celebration for you parents to say "woop we did it we survived the first year "
by the time she is old enough to remember, 4, 5 and so on,she'll most likely have lots of friends from kindy and school and it can be like the big party you envision
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 12:44pm |
 TheKelly wrote:
...so the first celebration ,is really a celebration for you parents to say "woop we did it we survived the first year " |
This is what we did. We had a BBQ for the girls 1st birthday. There were about 20 people there but only other toddler.
We have no family in NZ either (been here 5 years) but just invited our friends
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 1:24pm |
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We had a big party, but I have several coffee group friends with littlies that DD knows, plus we invited family and close friends who have watched DD grow right from conception, so we felt it was only right that we include them in our celebration. With my oldest i was out of town and had no friends so it was only my immediate family, and his dads immediate family for a little lunch and cake. At that stage he only had one cousin a few months older, and my little brother 4 years older
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 1:56pm |
I agree, with everyone else, just do something fun for the 3 of you. The zoo is an awesome idea, or maybe a picnic in the park with a playground.
We just had the grandparents over for DS first birthday. But I'm going to do a bigger party for his 2nd, although with a newborn then, I might change my mind closer to the time and just wait til his 3rd, or maybe his 21st
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 3:34pm |
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The zoo, or a park, for the three of you is what I was going to suggest. You can still have the cake, and if you go somewhere that already has kids running around, you can partially fulfill you're vision!
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 4:17pm |
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Yeah something special for the three of you sounds great....an alternative to the zoo is a farm park type thing or the butterfly place in auckland (never been but sounds like fun). Or swimming if he likes the pool?
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Posted: 23 August 2010 at 5:13pm |
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I like the idea of having a party. This could be a good opportunity for you to step up those emerging friendships by inviting people into your home and sharing a special time. You may find that from this you begin to get reciprical invitations. If you want to have a social group to hang out with, and are finding it tough getting there being new to the country and having a little one this is the right way to go about it. If you'd prefer to have a strong family unit with a few distant friendships then go for a small outing just the three of you.
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