Have any dads felt..

once he sees you in labour he wont feel so "bad" about it. most men i know have admitted they could never give birth, its too hard.

lol thats funny! i once heard someone say that if both men and women could give birth, and alternated doing it, there would be a first child ( the woman has it ) there would be a second child ( the man has it ) there would be a third child ( the woman again ) but there would never be a fourth child.

i think men come into parenting a lot later than women, they really cant do a lot until the child is older, nore independant, and can go with dad to do stuff. of course guys will and do support us with pregnancy, and help with baby, but i think they are the most comfortable when the kids are able to be helpers outside, or playing a game with them. in our house, our girl goes out to help dad build stuff most weekends, and her belief in her dad is fantastic to watch. "daddy fixed it" is heard all the time around here.
All you can do is be understanding of your husbands needs, and involve him in as much as possible.

I just asked my hubby about this... he said the only time he ever feels like that is when he hears a joke along the lines of "well, you didn't do anything!"

I think that making appointments so that your partner can be at as many as possible is something we can do to involve them in what really is a kinda weird time. Think about it: is there any differences between being 3yo, and being pregnant?
* Everyone wants to do everything for you, despite you being able to do it yourself,
* You get cranky if you miss your afternoon nap, and
* You should never pass up an oportunity to use the bathroom!

Edited by becca.l

 Hubby & i have just read through this together. My hubby does wish that he could do something towards bringing the baby into the world (and maybe if he could we wouldnt be having fertility probs??). In saying that though DH has been my rock thru the last 22 months or so. He was there for me when we lost our baby & has continued to be there through this long TTC period. He has been to all my Dr & fertility appointments (even if he does get his boxers in a knot when asked to do a "sample" ) & I know I wouldnt of been able to do it without him. Sure we have our moments like any other couple (or is it just me that sometimes feels like strangling him in a loving way???) but at the end of the day we have each other & oneday we will have our children & they will be loved to death . I think though that DH is more than happy to leave the birth part to me. He is useless with needles & blood & like all men a BIG BABY when it comes to sickness & pain. < language=>

Edited by Binkas Mum