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  | Mum_mum   Senior Member
 
   
   
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 |  Post Options  Thanks(0)  Quote  Reply  Topic: Not as excited 2nd time round Posted: 29 March 2011 at 11:02am
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   So Im pregnant with number two and although this bub is very much wanted, Im finding it hard to feel excited about a new baby coming.
 I spose it just feels so different from when i was pregnant with DD and was so excited about shopping for her, getting room ready, the next day in pregnancy lol.
 
 I am happy that we have number two coming along nicely but was anyone else like this? Just feel bad that baby number two doesn't get as much excitement and happy feelings towards it like DD did!
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  | _SMS_   Senior Member
 
   
   
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   I was the same and still am    i think its normal lol.
 I guess this time its because you know what your in for. More sleepless nights but add another child to look after on top of that    I was definitely more anxious this time around. Always worried. But im feeling alot happier and more excited since 20 weeks once i know all is going well.
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  | Turtle   Senior Member
 
   
   
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   I am the same.  I quite often forget that I am even pregnant, that is until the MS kicks in again.
 I think alot of it is having DD to look after as she is just a huge part of my day.  Where as before when I was pregnant with her I was just focused on being pregnant and enjoying it.  Now pregnancy just makes me tired, cranky and ill!   | 
 
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  | LittleBug   Senior Member
 
   
   
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 |  Post Options  Thanks(0)  Quote  Reply  Posted: 29 March 2011 at 4:01pm | 
 
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   I was the same - but once he arrived he just fit, you know? I didn't feel any less love for him, just because I wasn't as precious about the pregnancy. The first time around is so new and exciting, by the time you are going through pregnancy number to, it's not new anymore. But it IS a new baby, and a different baby is always exciting    Sorry if my ramble makes no sense, lol
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  | fire_engine   Senior Member
 
   
 
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 |  Post Options  Thanks(0)  Quote  Reply  Posted: 29 March 2011 at 4:20pm | 
 
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   ^exactly what LB said.
Not overly excited during the pregnancy (partly due to fatigue and nausea) but the moment he was out, he was mine and I was besotted.
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 |  Post Options  Thanks(0)  Quote  Reply  Posted: 30 March 2011 at 4:56pm | 
 
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   Our first child was IVF and we tried 3 embryo transfers for No. 2 but we weren't successful, yet when I found out I was pregnant (naturally) with this one I spent a good 2 weeks crying     I'm just starting to get my head around it now, but I'm still really unsure (or first was a diabolical baby - screamed for 12-16 hours a day, never slept, and was absolutely exhausting) but no turning back now!  I did a deal with the gods at 10 weeks before my first scan that as long as it wasn't twins, I'd suck it up    | 
 
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  | Chickoin   Senior Member
 
   
   
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 |  Post Options  Thanks(0)  Quote  Reply  Posted: 30 March 2011 at 5:51pm | 
 
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   Same here, I forget that I'm pregnant most of the time, I hardly even notice the little kicks I get in the morning, whereas with #1 it was always on my mind and little kicks were the most exciting thing to wake up to.
I figure that it will be all more exciting when s/he's born because I wouldn't have over thought it IYKWIM.
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  | shadowfeet   Senior Member
 
   
   
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 |  Post Options  Thanks(0)  Quote  Reply  Posted: 30 March 2011 at 8:05pm | 
 
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   Yea, same. I was looking forward to it so much, but then DD started walking, then running and fatigue really set in and am completely exhausted. I see newborns and while they're cute I am dreading it | 
 
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  | jano1   Senior Member
 
   
 
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 |  Post Options  Thanks(0)  Quote  Reply  Posted: 31 March 2011 at 7:11am | 
 
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   Same here- I think it's pretty common. Maybe it's because you know what to expect. in all honesty I'm more terrified second time around, not of the birth but wrangling 2 children scares me
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