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Posted: 21 October 2008 at 9:48pm |
I just feel like having a vent, so please allow me a little self indulgance...
Last weekend (when we were in Wanaka/Q'town for work) I had a bleed which resulted in a scan on Monday showing I had lost our baby. This was gutting, but after 2.5 days of not knowing I was glad to finally know one way or another. (Disclaimer - personal belief to follow) I believe that this happened for a reason and I am (sort of) OK with the whole thing. I am gutted, but resolute that these things happen, and that we know we can concieve and that for many this is not even possible.
I wanted to have a D & C ASAP so that we could move on and get back to trying. After speaking with my midwife I was under the impression that this morning I could get in at Chch Womans' and get it done. This morning I turned up, for what I thought would be the worst day of my life only to be told that this wasn't possible and that I was not going to get a D&C, until at least Thursday.
This might not seem so bad, but DH and I were planning on leaving to go on a week long holiday tomorrow morning. (Yes, I was planning on leaving the day after a D&C) I know it sounds odd, but this holiday and some quiet time with DH was really what I needed and was something I was holding on to....
Anyhow, I said to the Dr, fine I'll have the D&C when I get back from holiday'...this would have sucked too as the first day I'm back would have been my 31st b'day...but I didn't want to cancel the holiday as I have paid for accommodation and tickets to Phantom of the Opera (sad, I know!).
But...she basically said NO WAY...lots of drama about worse case senario etc (bleeding out on the ferry etc)...so we have had to go with a D & C on Thursday...
So, other than losing the baby, having a later than anticpated D & C and all the other blah-ness that goes with losing a baby we have also had to cancel our holiday (which I really needed after running the business for three months while the boss has been away....)
Arrrhhggggghhhhh.....basically woe is me.....sorry for the winge! 
And after a few glasses of wine...sorry if this makes no sense!
Edited to add - I was 11 weeks at the scan on Monday, so gutted I had come so far...and I'm over 'feeling' preg...I just want to feel normal again...for a month at least...
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mummy_becks
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Posted: 21 October 2008 at 9:51pm |
No way vent away. I would be really angry if I had to cancel my trip to see the Phantom as well.
That really sucks you have to wait as well.
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Posted: 21 October 2008 at 9:53pm |
oh surfergirl im really sorry!!!
What a horrible thing to be going through!!!
sorry no advice just big hugs!!!!!
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Posted: 21 October 2008 at 10:33pm |
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Posted: 21 October 2008 at 10:33pm |
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BIG BIG hugs surfergirl! I didn't realise you'd just miscarried. I'm soo sorry to hear this! And to miss out on your holiday now too..... that must be so frustrating for you. Love and hugs coming your way! xx oo xx
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Posted: 21 October 2008 at 10:44pm |
Hugs! I can't believe how crap the system is here with m/c, a friend went thru a similar experience. I was lucky (if you can call it that  ) that I miscarried our last baby in Sydney and had a d and c the same day they confirmed our baby had died.
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Posted: 21 October 2008 at 11:09pm |
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Posted: 22 October 2008 at 7:51am |
Im so sorry for your loss. What a crappy system. I hope things get better for you, sounds like you are in need of some hugs!
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Posted: 22 October 2008 at 8:29am |
Thanks everyone for your support and understanding (and the hugs!). For some reason I am finding it hard to talk to people in real life...but I knew you'd understand!
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Posted: 22 October 2008 at 8:33am |
Oh man, that really sux. I'm sorry that you've lost your little one and that you now can't have the holiday you've been looking forward to. I hope things start looking up for you soon.
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Posted: 22 October 2008 at 8:43am |
I'm sorry for your loss Surfergirl and how sucky that you have to miss out on your holiday too!
Life can be so hard sometimes.
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Posted: 22 October 2008 at 9:14am |
Just seen this E, so sorry to hear your having such a hard time, guttered about the holiday I know you were looking forward to it
Thinking of you and here if you need me xx
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Posted: 22 October 2008 at 9:16am |
Thinking of you So sorry to hear your news
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Posted: 22 October 2008 at 9:42am |
So sorry about your loss surfergirl
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Posted: 22 October 2008 at 2:36pm |
Oh E! I didn't know hun, I'm so sorry for your loss and so sorry you're being mucked around!
And yes, vent away, you have every right to be sad, angry.. whatever you want and need to feel!
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Posted: 22 October 2008 at 8:18pm |
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Posted: 27 October 2008 at 9:16am |
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Hey E... I'm sorry I'm late to read this thread but xoxoxoxoxoxox
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Posted: 27 October 2008 at 10:11am |
So sorry for your loss. What a crappy way to treat someone. I hope things start looking up for you soon,
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Posted: 27 October 2008 at 4:14pm |
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