Remembering baby?

Kellz, sorry for your loss.

We have a special place to remember ours and each time we have put a white rose into the sea! We also got married there so such a special place!

Thanks for your comments.

Do you have baby buried at your special place/ under the rememberance tree?

Yeah Im really undecided as to what to do- we said we didnt wanna keep baby, but now I think I would like to- baby has been sent for histology and then the hospital brochere says it will be kept for 3 months then if not collected will be cremated, so I guess I can still change my mind.

But we still have our 2 kids placentas in our freezer- after 2 and 5 yrs, and I dont want baby in there too- we have no idea where we wanna bury them.

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Kellz - I am so so sorry for your loss.

Although probably not entirely legal, my Angel babies are buried somewhere public (on a hill thatl looks over the sea) I love having somewhere physical to go on Anniversarys, due dates, or if Im just generally feeling crappy about my losses. I really do recommend thinking about something like that. My placenta will go up there too. It makes me feel like our family of "five" are all together somehow xx

Hi Kellz,

We had a dear friend weave a beautiful flax box with a fitted lid to place the baby in, and with the last one we placed dried roses from our wedding in it. Then each time we buried them in a pretty, quiet, sunny spot on my families land. It turns out we don't visit there that often, but I think in time we will, it's just a bit hard at the moment. I wanted to put the first baby right near what is now our house (we weren't living here at the time but were planning it), but my brother had a friend who buried her baby right beside her house and she found it just really hard to have it so close. So we chose a spot that is a few minutes walk away and secluded. We planted a lovely tree there too that is deciduous with pink flowers in spring, then red heart shaped leaves - it's gorgeous! Called a Forest Pansy. We also brought two scented pink roses, which have been in their pots all summer (eeek), but we will plant them outside our window, so they are near us.
It was really hard burying the tiny woven boxes with our precious babies each time, but we made it as special as we could, those boxes are full of tears though. I think for me and my DW it was an important part of the grieving process, as with MC you don't get to properly see or hold you baby, so having something to bury and cry 'over' was really helpful to grieve for our baby. I hope having your baby returned helps you and your family too.