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mum2ollie 
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Posted: 16 August 2010 at 6:27pm |
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So my cousin and his partner are expecting their first daughter in 14 days and I just feel so green with envy! I've even screened calls from my Aunt because she talks non stop about the baby and I've hidden his partners facebook updates from my newsfeed because she constantly moans about being pregnant when I would give practically anything to be expecting a baby in 14 days! Does this make me horrible?
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HoneybunsMa
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Posted: 16 August 2010 at 6:32pm |
didn't want to read and run but no it doesn't make you horrible. If you've just had a m/c and you are grieving for that loss then its perfectly natural to be envious/hurt/upset because they are having something you want.
Don't worry one day you will be 14days away from your EDD complaining about being pregnant and telling the baby to get out  as much as you'll love the baby and may love being pregnant we all do it 
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Posted: 16 August 2010 at 6:34pm |
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I had my first m/c a week ago today.
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Rachel1982
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Posted: 16 August 2010 at 6:48pm |
didn't want to read and run - I think this is totally understandable!!
Best of luck with your TTC journey 
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Posted: 16 August 2010 at 7:37pm |
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It doesn't make you a bad person at all!! *hugs*
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Posted: 16 August 2010 at 8:18pm |
No not a horrible person at all, and I can relate exactly to how your feeling.
So sorry your having a rough time of it, just do whatever you have to do to get through
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Posted: 17 August 2010 at 9:17pm |
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Posted: 17 August 2010 at 10:43pm |
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I absolutely agree with Honey (above). Also, you've only just m/c so your emotions will naturally be up and down. Did any of the family, like the aunt, know that you had been pg? Developing sensitivity around m/c is only something that comes with experience, and everyone copes with it differently too (as in, some ppl want others to not talk about it but other ppl want others to not avoid the issue). Big hugs.
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Posted: 18 August 2010 at 12:54pm |
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Everyone new I was pregnant and everyone new that I m/c. My aunt has had 4 miscarriages.
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Posted: 18 August 2010 at 1:43pm |
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Totally not a bad person. Ive done similar things with friends who were pregnant... You have to do waht you have to cope
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Posted: 18 August 2010 at 3:19pm |
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No, you're not a bad person at all! Totally understandablle! I think most people in your situation have done smiliar things, I know I have and still do!
Good luck and hugs to you
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