Christmas not such a great time.

After reading and posting in the waht you doing for christmas thread i relised that unfortunality for us christmas is alway a litte sad casue it was about this time that MIL passed away she was the glue for the family. We use to have the best time's on christmas day lot's of laughing etc now it just feel's dead no one seem's excited including me. I am actually sitting here in tear's almost dreading the day. This time last year we talked about how we were going to go all out for christmas this year etc, and we just have not done this partly due to lack of planning and money, but mainly cause the reality is it just feel a litte wrong with out MIL.
Thankyou I needed to get this off my chest I guess I am all hormonal at the moment too which is not helping.

Edited by loadsofkids

I think xmas is the time of year where we really notice who ISN"T around, rather than who is. i know my xmases without my grandfather were really difficult. I think what got me through was just trying to appreciate the wonderful family that i had around. I know my grandfather would've kicked my butt if I moped so tried to enjoy myself as best i could.

I hope you guys can have a quiet, but happy xmas and remember your MIL, and remember that i'm sure she would want to be happy at this time of year.

Big hugs.

Oh thanks guy's. Nic I remember your sis too although I was pretty young. I guess it is just relising it not jsut us that have to deal with this stuff I think it is more cause a her death so so close to christmas day.

well my dad died on dec 23 last year, so we willb e missing someone this year as well. It sucks.

Still, we are going to have a geat day, though, as that is what he would have wanted. What we are going to do is light a big candle beside the last picture taken of him, and have a sad, tearful 5 mins max, then enjoy the day, his candle burning for him, and no tears etc. It will be hard, but we want to make the day a happy one.