How often to BD?

We were told (by two different experts),
- every second day in the days leading up to and including O, (so if you O on day 14, then days 10, 12 and 14), and
- as much as possible on those days - the more the better, the two day thing is a myth. The risk with that, of course, is that if you do it too much on the first few days, poor DH is exhausted by the time O comes!

Sorry that's not much help!

catie, did you mean to do it several times on days 10, 12 & 14, not just once each day? I thought that guys had to rebuild up their resources?

TraceyA wrote: catie, did you mean to do it several times on days 10, 12 & 14, not just once each day? I thought that guys had to rebuild up their resources?

Sorry if I wasn't clear, I meant that the two-day theory (well, my understanding) is that you BD once every second day. However, another specialist told us that it's better to just do it as much as possible in the 3 days leading up to O - you'd probably end up with at least the same number of sperm plus they'd be fresher if you do it more.

We BD'd every 2nd day then the 3 days in a row around ov. Worked for us It was the first month that we'd tried that pattern.
I know what you mean by it being a bit of a chore though. Every 2nd day was way more than both of us were used to. We had a laugh though, I would remind DH that he needed to come to bed so we can "have some sex". Very un-romantic! lol

Edited by Chickoin

By the time bed time came around I was so tired I just couldn't be bothered or DH would want to do at the most worst times(such as when desprate housewives is on ) so I started pulling Miya down for her afternoon sleep a little bit early while Chloe was at kindy and DH would come home for "lunch"!! It meant I wasn't dreading going to bed at night(yes it really did get that bad after every night 20days in a row! )

It helps to makes an effort though, one night DH lit some candles and picked rose petals for next door and sprinkled them on the bed, I felt so special!!