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   Roksana  
   
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     Posted: 07 July 2008 at 1:21pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   My mum was told not to have any babies...when she got Pregnant with me she didnt go and see a doc untill she was like 7 months pregnant (Doc would have made her abort).....after giving birth to me Doc told her not to have any more...she waited 8 years and had my brother!! She always wanted two!!
 
OH...she has a bad heart and hence the NO Babies. She was really sick after my Bro, so never considered to have any more. She had me at 19 and Bro at 27.
 I was talking to her about this thead and she could relate too...Funny that!   
    
   
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     Posted: 07 July 2008 at 2:11pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   i have the what if i run out of time to have more babies i,m 30 this year and i could be running out of time   
    
   
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     Posted: 07 July 2008 at 2:18pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   Lu!  30 is still baby young as far as I'm concerned!  You've got HEAPS of time to make more babies    
    
   
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     Posted: 08 July 2008 at 11:19am | 
 
 
  
   
   
   my DH and i have always been on different planets when it comes to when and how many kids.......and he always seems to win!  
i didnt want kids til i was in my late 20's but as he was quite older and desperate for kids i thought id give him one at 22! now when the surprise pregnancy came along i was so gutted but i knew he was over the moon.....he now jokes that this time next year he wil be sitting with 1.....2....and 3 in the tummy! 
but for me i know i dont want any more any time soon.....but i wouldnt "end" it because i know i might want 1 or 2 more down the line.......... 
hard hard choice to make......but i think if i was like some of you who are absolutely sure then thats the choice for you! 
    
   
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     Posted: 08 July 2008 at 11:48am | 
 
 
  
   
   
   
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  i have the what if i run out of time to have more babies i,m 30 this year and i could be running out of time  |    
  
I certainly hope not.  I'm 30 this year too (a few days after you I think) and we're going to start to TTC #2 in a couple of months.  DH wants 3 kids and I want 4 so we're just beginning our family really.  I have another 15-20 years before I reach 'middle age' and I don't feel too old to have kids, in fact DH's mum was in her 40s when she had him (although he was her last - they decided 8 kids were enough). 
    
   
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     Posted: 08 July 2008 at 12:02pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   Lu you are so not running out of time at 30, I know I will be as that is when I'm due to have the baby making oven removed. 
    
   
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     I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
     
   
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     Posted: 08 July 2008 at 3:20pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   i know i,m not running out of time i,m just relly clucky and i dont have a pantner it makes it relly hard   
    
   
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     Posted: 08 July 2008 at 3:50pm | 
 
 
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   They offered to tie my tubes! When I had my pre-induction appt yesterday she asked me about contraception and if I had a c-sect did I want my tubes tied. I said no tho, I am not in the right head space to make such a permanent decision.
    
   
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     Posted: 08 July 2008 at 4:00pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   
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  They offered to tie my tubes! When I had my pre-induction appt yesterday she asked me about contraception and if I had a c-sect did I want my tubes tied. I said no tho, I am not in the right head space to make such a permanent decision. |   
they asked my mother when i was knocked out for my c-sec lucky she said no   
    
   
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     Posted: 08 July 2008 at 4:48pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   I dont blame you Emma, thats a pretty big decision to make!  
    
   
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     Posted: 08 July 2008 at 4:49pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   
   james wrote:
  they asked my mother when i was knocked out for my c-sec lucky she said no  |    
  thats a shocker! 
    
   
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     Posted: 08 July 2008 at 6:59pm | 
 
 
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   i wish they had've asked me....i would've said yes.....condoms are horrible and we can't afford for DH to get the snip
 
 question.....if they do tie your tubes while your open after a c/s, does it cost?
    
   
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     Posted: 22 May 2011 at 11:31am | 
 
 
  
   
   
   bumping this thread, he is now 3 years old and we are STILL having this conversation, well rather I am and the DH isn't listening lol!!  
    
   
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     Posted: 22 May 2011 at 1:26pm | 
 
 
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   my husband has said no more..i am still holding out hope that he will change his mind..i dont even bother bringing it up (he is the one that says "two is enough") we have both agree we will reasses in 3 years (well when our son is 3.
 
 I know that at his moment in time I dont want any more babies/children but maybe when our youngest is 2-3 I would like (but yeah all dependent on DH) to try for another.
    
   
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     Posted: 22 May 2011 at 1:35pm | 
 
 
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   With DS3 turning 5 this week it is suddenly sinking in all those pre schools days are nearly over. We would love another...DH wants one big time...
    
   
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     Posted: 22 May 2011 at 6:05pm | 
 
 
  
   
   
   When I had B I swore no more... not if having babies was going to be how it was with him, then I met DP and he was so clucky lol! Had Jae and after all the time and tears it took to get her, he didnt want to go through that again... I knew I wanted one more though... clearly I got my way    Got my tubes tied during c-sect (was free btw since I was on c-sect #3) and now in the process of selling the tiny baby stuff our last has grown out of... I dont feel 'SAD' sad to see them go, more a case of 'out the door they go and I'll never see those cute little clothes on a baby again' kind of sad, I put a lot of thought into what I buy and have my kids clothed in, and its a little sad that I'll never see them again, but I'm totally happy with my decision, havent regretted it yet (then again, hes only 11.5 weeks old!)
     
   
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     Posted: 22 May 2011 at 10:52pm | 
 
 
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   Well we definitely don't want any more, but with my sis and 2 close friends due in the same week, I'm now getting incredibly clucky! But I hope being able to hold their babies will be enough, I don't want to go there again but get a bit sad that I'll only ever be able to borrow cuddles again
    
   
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     Posted: 23 May 2011 at 10:56am | 
 
 
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   Well it's almost three years down the track....didn't realise I had posted in this thread so was a surprise to read it again lolz. Kahtrell is 4.5 years old....and we are now in the "see what happens" phase.
    
   
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     Posted: 23 May 2011 at 11:56am | 
 
 
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   Go on emz. have another :)
    
   
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   After i had Toby i remember feeling sad that i was never going to be THE grandmother as i had no girls...  then lo and behold we got pregnant and had Eden.  LOL!
 
 But i do feel sad still now knowing there is definitely no more babies for me.  I too have felt sad getting rid of the baby clothes and stuff too...  I love babies and being pregnant though! *sigh*
    
   
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