How to cope

Hi guys,
I am a newbie at this but just wanted to know how those who had a miscarriage coped?? I found out a week ago following a scan that at 8 weeks no heartbeat and to expect bleeding. I have had a hell of a week, crying at everything and anything. Its especially worse when I see babies and as I am working in an environment filled with babies and children its really hard.
My husband and I were really looking forward to this baby as we thought we were finally successful through IVF. I feel my friends dont understand as they have never experienced this!!!

I had a miscarriage a week and half ago at 6 weeks 2 days, a scan at 6 weeks showed only a gest sac measuring 4 weeks so the bleeding did not come unexpected. I had also been having bloods which had not been promising and was at risk of ectopic, so in some ways it was a relief when it happened as the stress was over and I didn't need to have a DNC or other medical intervention.
As for how to cope, I don't know I'm afraid. Asking questions on here helps as there are other people that have been through it that understand how you feel. I also found looking up all the medical stuff regarding miscarriages and reasons for them helped me (i'm an information person) I also read through a lot of the previous posts on here and it helped to read that other people had gone through the same emotions/thoughts that I am having.

At the moment I am still struggling with when to start trying again and how I actually feel about the miscarriage, whether or not I want to acknowledge it in some way (thinking maybe tattoo) or whether I don't want that reminder etc. Most of the time I just feel flat.

ass i said on other post i waited 5 weeks and it still hadnt happened naturally(didnt wait by choice though).. i was the opposite.i like information but for me i couldnt grasp why it had happened even though eventually we did find out why..i just felt angry and upset and why me.. and esp going back to work at the preschool:( anyway big hugs to you....Pm me if you want to.

Hey there, I so know what you are going thru, i fact in a few weeks it will have been a year since i went thru it myself, finding out at a routine scan that our baby, though perfect in every other way, had no heartbeat.., Due to the growth size being about right for dates i waited another week for a scan just in case they'd missed it then waited another 2 weeks because of service strikes in the hospital.. and bleeding never started. So for me, i opted for a d&C.. i was terrified of bleeding. so go for what feels right for you.

I work in a NNU, so going back to work for me was kinda hard sometimes to remember where i should be at with all these babies around, but actually not as hard as i thought it would be, I love my job so much it doesn't makea difference.

What the other girls have said is so very true, make sure you get counselling or something as well, have learnt the hard way about that one.....

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