Are WE our own worst enemy with TTC?

I think thats true to some extent, especially with "chemical pregnancies" as they seem to end so quickly. Back in those days it would have just been seen as a late AF and it would be no biggie.

I think we all put alot of pressure on ourselves when its comes to trying to conceive

Back in the olden days our parents never worried out m/c's charts taking your temp fertiliy specialists

Now a days things seem alot harder but are they really or are we just putting too much pressure on ourselves which is making us not get pregnant

We should be enjoying our lives.

How many people can say that their relationship with their parner has been better since trying to conceive. Mine hasn't    

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I don't think it is any different only now we have more information about whats going on with our bodies.

My mum and dad both had unexplained infertility - they adopted my brother and me - mum possibly due to an appendicitus as a teen and dad due to his swimmers - my mum isn't alive anymore to ask her, from what my Dad has said she had all the same emotions with not being able to get pregnant and equally the same amount of pressure.

I don't think much has changed, except that we know more and in my case I'm a lot older.

LittleSal wrote: I agree with Hila1. TTC is very much under the microscope on this forum which is why it seems as if everyone freaks out about it. In reality it doesn't have to be that way and isn't for the majority of women who are TTCing in my experience.

Totally agree 100% with you LittleSal. And yep MaebeeBaby you're also completely right- we are most definately our own worst enemy...(although arguably that theory could be applied to lots of other things in life too).

MB- that was LittleSal who wrote that but I agree with her  And it's so awesome that you're finding comfort and support here- I most definately did TTc first time...and still do!  plus have made some awesome friends IRL from ohbaby

I guess what kept me going first time around and after 3 m/c was that *most* women DO get pg and have a bubba...eventually. some need more help than others but that was the light at the end of my tunnel during the dark days  (I'm really sorry to hear you had 2 m/c too....very very very unfair )

I'm of two minds. In some ways it would have been easier to just have sex and wait to see if AF arrived. And it's still possible to do that, if it's what works for you!

At the same time, wanting babies is a pretty natural thing. So I'm guessing that it was just as hard in those days, if you're been doing the 'having sex and waiting' thing for some time. You'd still know when AF was due, you'd still be as hopeful that it didn't arrive. You just wouldn't have the information we have now about why it might not be happening. I don't think it would change the nervous anticipation and the dissappointment when AF did arrive.

Also, if I lived back then, chances are we wouldn't be expecting Bubs, since it was a medical procedure that did it for us. So that's enough to make me thrilled I live in the here and now!

Totally agree i really do think we tend to over think things today. DH and i were having this exact conversation last night we also wondered into the realm of why we take so long to make the decision to TTC or why we seem to wait for "right time" before the pill etc it just happened. Sometimes i really do think their previous generations were better off.

I don't understand LittleSal - why does it say 'extra' fertile? I thought I just chose a random ticker LOL!

(sorry, I am just having a really dense day - you should see the stuff-ups/silly things I have been writing on a horsetalk forum LOL!!!)

TBH, the 'olden way' was kinda how we were going to go about ttc. If I hadn't started this weirdo spotting and had a mc, I wouldn't know half the stuff I've learnt.

I think I would have been very very frustrated in the olden days, although I STILL don;t know what is going on, I feel more 'in the loop' about how it all works, otherwise I would have written myself off as barren and worrying there was something unexplainably and irreversibly weird inside my lady bits (maybe there is?)