QuoteReplyTopic: How to deal...friends and their littlies... Posted: 24 July 2016 at 1:40pm
So the background is that I'm 10 weeks pregnant (yay!) with baby number 1, but very cautious after 2 miscarriages already. Almost all our friends have children and I hate to say it, but I am struggling being around them sometimes. Even though they know about the miscarriages and that we are trying, I feel an exclusion. Mums go to talk to other mums about kids stuff. The babies are passed from mum to mum and not offered to me. It makes me so sad and pretty incompetent to be honest. I try to keep a brave face and ask about all the kids, but it seems like they are no longer interested in what is going on in my life. Am I making too big a deal of this?
Im sorry that you are struggling, Yay on the pregnancy!!
I don't think they are leaving you out of holding babies becuase they think you are incompetent... more likely it is because they dont want it to be difficult on you. One of the hardest things was holding my BF's newborn after suffering another MC.
Its not unusual to struggle around babies/friends who are pregnant after losses.
The further on in this pregancy you get, the more these feelings will likely subside. If you really feel like they dont understand your feelings you probably really just need to talk to them. As mothers, unfortunately our lives/minds are taken up with so many things, and they just may not have realised how much you are struggling?
TTC#2 - 3rd Letrozole cycle since MC MC + D&C after SCH - 9w3d March 16 Four letrozole cycles - Oct 2015 - Jan 2016 MC - 8 weeks - October 2015 First beautiful baby girl - born Nov 2014 Miscarriage
Thanks! I guess that I just need some reassurance. None of them have had a miscarriage, so I don't think that they understand and I think that it makes them uncomfortable :( I am just trying to get in the best place and keep my fingers crossed for this bubs!
I completley understand how you feel. And everything you are feeling is very normal indeed! Trying to be happy for someone and suffering so much yourself is really really hard. Some days will be better than others. All the very best with your pregnancy x
Thanks ladies. I have been spending time with friends one on one, which has made me feel better! I think that I am just being super sensitive. Almost 11 weeks now, fingers crossed
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