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emmaohara 
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catie
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Posted: 06 July 2007 at 12:55pm |
Wow, you've been through so much - you deserve a medal for bravery. You've made a difficult decision too - I hope that the hard times are behind you and you can enjoy the two kids you have got, your DH and your career.
Best wishes.
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Maya
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Posted: 06 July 2007 at 1:33pm |
Big hugs Janine  I hope getting it all out there has been cathartic for you, sometimes we stew on things for so long that it just has to explode somewhere.
Grief is a funny thing, you can kind of sweep it under the carpet and as long as you can keep busy enough, you can keep one step ahead of it. But all that running gets pretty exhausting and eventually it will catch up with you no matter how hard you try. And it's ok to grieve. And not just to grieve for your wee angel, but to grieve for everything that your wee angel symbolised - all your hopes, dreams, plans for the future.
I will be thinking of you and Mike and your gorgeous girls over the next few days, and I hope the weekend gives you a chance to chill out and hang around in your PJ's all day and just do nothing but look after you.
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mum2paris
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Posted: 06 July 2007 at 1:50pm |
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he he, i have work so no chance of that Emma. Ok, i HAVE to ask.. what does cathartic mean?? i have seen it written heaps but seriously am blonde.. i have no idea. lolol. it is bugging me but am too lazy to actually look it up in the dictionary. he he
Thanks ladies for your kind words. I think alot of everything has stemmed from just pushing the things under the carpet like Emma said because that's what i do. I get on, put on a brave face and just keep going. Let me tell you guys, am the same as you, have days where i can't handle, (as you have seen and read), don't need a medal just a bit of a good shake really to tell me to wake up and be sensible about it, which mike seems to do when he knows that i can't.
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Maya
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Posted: 06 July 2007 at 1:52pm |
You sound a lot like me - I've been told that half my problem is that I spend most of my time trying to solve other peoples problems so I don't have to deal with my own 
Cathartic = therapeutic. I know for me writing stuff down, getting it out there in the universe, is always cathartic. There's a line from a song that I really identify that goes "if I get it all down on paper it's no longer inside of me, threatening the life it belongs to."
Bugger about having to go to work! Do you reckon you could get away with wearing your PJ's to work?
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Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
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mum2paris
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Posted: 06 July 2007 at 11:54pm |
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ha ha, i wear scrubs at work so it's pretty darn close to pjs really, just not quite so snuggly, more cotton and starchy.
and ooooh click, i get it, i think i knew that actually now that you actually explain it to me.
and what you said about trying to solve everyone elses problems.. yep that's me, totally.. why else would i keep going back and helping my sister.
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daikini
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Posted: 07 July 2007 at 10:18am |
Thinking of you all, Janine.
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Bizzy
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Posted: 07 July 2007 at 6:13pm |
cathartic = emotionally purging
much better than physically purging..lol
What a traumatic journey janine...maybe a short holiday break is in order as soon as you can arrange it.
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Kels
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Posted: 07 July 2007 at 6:37pm |
 Take care of yourself Janine and I hpope your feeling much better soon.
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Posted: 07 July 2007 at 7:07pm |
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The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P
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Posted: 07 July 2007 at 9:28pm |
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nictoddie
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Posted: 08 July 2007 at 9:32am |
Hey Janine, I have been where you are , the miscarraige and then wanting to have another one, but for us it was me who made the big decision and since making it only just recently it is the best one I have made. Our life in the past 3 months has been up and down and all over the place and it sucks!! Dh has had 3 new jobs and it is very unsettling we moved and now looks like we are gonna have to again in the very near future due to the house is prob going on the market find out next week, I'm like you too and try and brush it all under the carpet and put my energy into other things to keep me busy and then it will come crashing down!!!
big hugs chick hope that life gets better for you and that you are able to take some time for yourself , you have achieved so much in the past 4 years well done you should be mighty proud of yourself.
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Posted: 08 July 2007 at 4:20pm |
mum2paris, i read your posts and think you are an amazing woman. I hope you are feeling a little better today.
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Posted: 08 July 2007 at 4:21pm |
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and nictoddie - I hope things work out for you too
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