Pregnant with 3rd - Feeling overwhelmed

DP and I are expecting our 3rd baby and so far we have recieved mostly positive comments but the last couple of comments from loved ones have been rather negative..

My brother said we were crazy and suggested that DP couldn't keep it in his pants..

Then when we told DP's parents on Sunday, there was no congratulations, hugs, lovely comments nothing..

We got: Oh No, How are you going to afford that..? Haven't you had a vasectomy yet..? Where is the 3rd one going to sleep..? And the doozy: Poor DD and DS haven't had a chance to be babies or little kids and you're adding another one..!!

I felt sick.. Poor DP - his face just sunk when he started hearing all the negativity.. It's no wonder he doesn't want much to do with his family.. Mine are estatic (apart from brother) about our news.. I think he was hoping they would be too..

None of our pregnancies were congratulated by his parents.. It really sux..

I rang and confronted his mum yesterday about her comments and she said that they are "Concerned" we won't cope with 3 under 3..

It's funny.. I'm not the first woman to have 3 children and not the last and they all survived including herself.. Don't want to sound bitchy but she is a terrible mum - that's probably why she struggled with her lot. My mum had 3 - one was severely handicap and she did a great job..!

Just feeling overwhelmed now.. I'm trying to get all positive and happy about our pregnancy but with such horrible comments it makes you feel real down about it all...

Wish I could wash them from my life completely and just get on.. I have no time for such negativity..!

Thanks for the vent...!

Edited by ChildsPlay

Congratulations on your pg!!

I am sorry to hear that you received negative comments, especially from 'loved ones'. I know it is easier said than done but try and ignore them.

Wow, imagine what a wonderful time your kids will have being so close in age, they will grow together and be the best of friends I am sure

oh my gosh that is horrible! with my last pregnancy i got lfrom my sister and parents 'ooh i hope you dont miscarry its to early to tell people" (we told as soon as we found out we were so excited) then when i did miscarry i felt the i told you so's coming..

you have a wonderful partner who is excited aobut another baby.. two healthy kids, and you are right to be thrilled! as time goes along i'm sure the comments they made will not worry you quite so much as you look forward to your new baby..

how exciting it wil mean a wonderful bond between your kids as they are all close in age and can really enjoy being kids together! wonderful!

Oh you poor thing. I was really lucky and got mostly support when I announced I was pregnant with #3. My girls were 8 and 5 when we decided to have another, and the announcement did shock a lot of people, but I had mostly support.

The main thing to remember is that YOU and your partner are the ones that count. You are the ones that have to cope with it all, no one else. This is your decision and at the end of the day you are an adult and don't have to justify your decisions to anyone.

I hope as time goes by your family come around a bit more and show a lot more support. If they don't, I am sure their hearts will melt when they see the new edition. Also, just because a new baby is coming, doesn't mean your others can't be babies still. It isn't like they are going to age!

Enjoy your pregnancy!

poor thing - so sorry for you
It should be a time of joy making your own family. Congratulations!
I'm from a family of 4 siblings (7yrs spread) and my sis has 4. 3 sounds like a lot in 'this day and age' but it's not really (says me who's got 1 and wondering if I can cope with #2)
There's an older guy at my work, from a family of 11 kids, and whenever the subject of small children/grandchildren comes up he's so happily animated. He loved being from a big family and can't get enough of children in his life.
Take the good and try and close your ears to the bad.