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kebakat 
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Posted: 24 May 2007 at 8:52pm |
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There's this person in my life that is really making me angry..
They are the type of person who loves to correct everything I do because they believe they are always right and can never be wrong and does this to everyone, not just me and my patience is really wearing quite thin with them..
It's not just the constant "im right you're wrong" attitude that annoys the hell out of me its the way that they do it as well as though they are far more superior to me and anyone else.
And god help ya if you try to argue back because they just keep coming back with more arguements and it just gets very tiring. And a couple of friends are pissed off with it as well.
I'm really close to telling this person to just shut the hell up. Would you put up with it or would you tell them straight that it's not cool?
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Posted: 24 May 2007 at 9:25pm |
That's a hard one... I guess it depends on how you think the person will take it. If they're are likely to loose the plot at you then do you need extra stress this close to bubs arriving? But then on the other hand, if things can't get any worse what have you got to loose? (a friend?) 
Sorry, this isn't much help!
Also... if it's a family member then I guess you'll always have to see them, but if it's a friend can you just not see them as often?
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Posted: 24 May 2007 at 9:29pm |
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There's this person in my life that is really making me angry..
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well you dont call them a friend so what have you got to lose... you know you want to... 
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Posted: 24 May 2007 at 10:05pm |
i,m with gandt go for it
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Posted: 24 May 2007 at 10:31pm |
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You've got to do it. You don't want yourself or your new baby to be surrounded with people like that. Don't put up with it. I wouldn't.
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 6:54am |
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I had someone in my life very similar...and still do! I ended up saying "if I need your advice I will ask for it" and that actually got the point acorss quite nicely. of course some people like this are quite dense and don't understand how anyone would NOT want to hear what they have to say. In that case you need to be a tad more blunt "I have no interest in your opinion on this subject". I would be blunt, but calm and polite and tell them to back off.
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 8:31am |
Hmmmm.....are you sure your not describing my family .
I'd tell them if I were you! Otherwise it starts eating you up at how much they get up your nose. I tend to use the - "I'm very different to you" or the "Its my life/situation/baby etc and I need to do things my way" lines. I agree with lizzle - you need to be fairly blunt about it otherwise they just don't get it. - Good luck with whatever you decide.
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kebakat
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 8:40am |
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hehe the interesting part of this is that I don't mind telling them however once I start talking I might not know when to shut up since they have been annoying me for some time now lol
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 8:47am |
hehe....yea, give 'em what for Stacey
You could always blame the preggy hormones if they react badly 
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 8:50am |
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Tell them how it is, if they take offence and don't wish to be a friend to you then they aren't worth your time.
The best friends are ones who you can be honest with, and not lose the friendship.
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 10:08am |
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Absolutely tell them exactly how it is, let it all out.... and then blame it on the late stages of pregnancy later on if it all hits the fan.
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 10:11am |
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do it in writing - or just go nuts at them...does it really matter if you give her all barrels..??
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 10:13am |
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I so agree with G&T....just go for it.
You will be so much better off afterwards!
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 10:42am |
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oh i have a few people like this! and have told a couple to shut it!!! and a few i just wont as it would cause more trouble than good! i just make known when they open their mouth that it better be nice!!
I would tell them for sure and who cares if you let rip! sounds like theyv got loose lips themselves anyway!
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 1:20pm |
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Ooohhh yeah, go on... tell them what you think of their opinions!
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 7:19pm |
emeldee wrote:
Absolutely tell them exactly how it is, let it all out.... and then blame it on the late stages of pregnancy later on if it all hits the fan. |
I agree!!
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Posted: 25 May 2007 at 10:25pm |
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Is it someone that you have to see? It sounds like it isn't just an annoying habit but is actually part of who they are- a full on personality trait.
I would love to tell my MIL that if you tell me something once, I have heard it and you don't have to repeat the exact same thing 4-5 times for me to get it, but I honestly think that is just who she is and it wouldn't do any good. It annoys me but she does it to everyone and it annoys everyone but you kind of just have to accept it.
But if you think that confronting them about it might actually change their behaviour then definitely go for it!
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Posted: 26 May 2007 at 10:43am |
I think I was just sh!t-stirring when I said you should just get in there and go for it, 'cause truth be told I'd be a bit chicken about that myself! I suppose the big thing to consider is who this person is to you - if it's family you're stuck with them and need to find a way to work around them if you can't work with them. If it's a friend - how much do you really like them? He he. And could they be willing to change it, and if they aren't, is it something you're going to one day see as just a personality quirk, or will it send you round the bend? And if it's an acquaintence, do you care how they react should you tell them where to shove their opinions? Do you have to see this person a lot, or are they easily avoided?
...so many questions! I'm being such a sticky-beak, sorry Stacey! Best of luck to you - hope this works out well.
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Posted: 26 May 2007 at 10:46am |
hehe thanks. I'm going to wait until the next unwanted comment from them and then see whether I feel like telling them 
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Posted: 26 May 2007 at 9:33pm |
Now that could get interesting .
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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