Do ’real life’ people know you are TTC?

Just a random thought because I seriously feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders and I want to share . Some of you will know, I have just started having weekly blood tests to check whether I'm ovulating and I had to go today. That's all fine and good but I had to be there before 4pm because the bloods get picked up soon after, so I had to leave work early - which wouldn't be a problem except I'm a teacher and to leave by 3.30pm on the first day of term... hmmm... Anyway, because this is going to be a regular thing for at least the next couple of Mondays I saw my boss to let him know I'd be leaving early. I ended up telling him pretty much the whole thing - and he was AMAZING!! Really understanding and helpful.
I've also told a couple of friends, and we've told DH's dad and it really really helps to have people to talk to especially when things get especially stressful.
Speaking of stressful - I found at the doctors that DH's sample was back so we have an appointment at 5.45pm tomorrow to discuss those results.

Thanks for reading if you still are

Only a few people know - literally a few... I knew we'd be in for a long haul when we started trying so I only told my mum & her hubby and my grandmother.
I only told them about 4 mths after we started trying.
And my partner didn't want to tell anyone, especially his parents as they'd get their hopes up and probably wouldn't understand the infertility side of things.

Just didn't think I could face people asking questions on how it was going as a constant reminder. Lucky I have a lovely partner who doesn't mind listening to all I have to say when upset/stressed lol



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Hey Becks That's my principal. I don't think my team leader would be quite so understanding, but then I probably shouldn't assume that.
We weren't going to tell anyone and it was just going to be a cool 'surprise' but after about 14 months I kind of 'gave up' the idea of it being a surprise for people and shared it. Now, I'm not too worried who knows, although I haven't told my parents yet . Will do soon I think though.
It's been about 18 months now... but we've started the testing process and will hopefully have a plan soon

Hey that's fantastic news about your boss and great that you have some friends that you can talk things through with.

 

When we were TTC Michaela my mum, my oldest sis and a friend knew.  This time my mum & dad, my MIL, DHs boss, my MW and a friend all know we're going to start TTC soon.  When I do get bfp I don't think it'll be a surprise to most people that know me IRL because I'm super clucky and make no effort to hide it.

When we were TTC Jack no one knew, I didn't want any pressure if it took us a while. We are planning to TTC #2 in Jan and only my coffee group girls know as we all discuss when we will start. I won't tell anyone else though.

we told most people that we were TTC with Caitlin and REALLY wished we hadn't! It was bad enough getting AF every month without comments like "are you pregnant yet?" "are you sure you're doing it right"

This time we wanted to announce and "accident" when we got our BFP but DH blabbed to my parents when explaining why we moved Caitlin out of her nursery into a bigger room (he could have said the furniture didn't fit but nooooo.. "that's the baby's room" WTF?!?!? What baby? LOL
So my family are the only ones that know, along with my IRL Oh Baby friends and you lot

We had 2 m/c quite close together last year, which more or less let the cat out of the bag... before that it had just been my sister, and my best mate...I dont really have that many friends IRL left to talk to about TTC cos they have all gone on to have their own babies and dont really wanna talk about anything else but them kwim? Its kinda the last thing I wanna talk about with them, considering what we are going through now.

Definitely feeling the pressure from family, every time we see them its 'How are you guys going?' which is our family-speak for 'Are you guys preg yet?'

Well, my best frineds know as i had to stop drinking to get my diabetes under control. And when i stopped eating junk as well, they were like: umm?

One of my workmates knows, but thats cos she frequents here too, and my manager.
DH's sister, but thats about it.

Ive told my family that we are thinking about giving it a go.. And they keep doing this whole: Oh, you should just do it, dont plan it etc etc Im like: OMG what do you know? yea sure you guys look at men and fall pg! DO you have t1 diabetes? NO! Do you never have periods? NO! Id love to see YOU fall pg with whats happening in my body for FS!!!

Yea, ok im hormonal today Sorry guys, rant over.....

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Yes, we have told most of our friends. We haven't told either of our folks though because we want to surprise them - they have no idea because we have never wanted to have kids up till about 6 months ago.

I enjoy talking to everyone about it and it doesn't bother me in the slightest telling people I'm not preg yet but then I'm not baby crazy. My sis-in-law wants me to get preg more than I do I think!

With this one we didn't tell anyone at all - just felt easier to keep it quiet, and stop comments from people about how to plan our family... (MIL!) 

Actually thinking back, we ddidn't tell anyone with Luke either, but it happened so fast that it wasn't an issue