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Febgirl 
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Posted: 17 November 2008 at 9:11pm |
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hi there,
Just wondering if anyone else didn't bother staying in hospital after giving birth to their first baby? My plan had always been that so long as both myself and my baby were healthy that I would go home as soon as possible afterwards - I was lucky enough that everything went well and we all went home 3 hours after the birth, I didn't transfer to a ward from the birthing suite.
My thinking was that I didn't particularly like hospitals, and would much rather recooperate at home in my own bed. I also thought it was terrible that partners weren't able to stay overnight, I wanted to spend time together as a family rather than DH being kicked out and having to go home by himself.
Did anyone else feel the same? Most people were amazed/horrifed that I went home a few hours after birth but it was perfect for us.
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Posted: 17 November 2008 at 9:19pm |
Would have if I had, had my own way but as it was I self discharged on day 2 of a emergency c sect. Next 2 births were VB and I was able to go home straight from Delivery even thou they tried to put me into the postnatal ward both times I really hate hosp and I also get extra clingy to my older kids around the last trimester and the first few months post natal (well I did with the last 2 births but the 1st was pure HATE for hospitals.
Wow sounds like you had an amazing experience and awesome that you were able to be at home within hours. Makes all the difference being in your own environment.
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Posted: 17 November 2008 at 9:29pm |
I gave birth at 10pm, so by the time I'd been sewed up and fed Natalie, it was about 2am, so we decided to stay overnight (although DH was kicked out!) We came home at lunchtime the next day, so our total stay was about 15hours from her birth. I had a pretty much complication-free labour, and she latched great from the start. I was in a shared room with 2 ladies and their noisy babies, and since DH wasn't allowed to be there between 8pm-8am, I just wanted to be at home with him.
Even from the tour of the hospital, I just didn't feel comfortable there, and wanted my own bed and bathroom.
I did get some comments from friends about leaving so soon, but I had always planned it that way - my MW did suggest leaving straight from the delivery suite like you did, but by that stage both DH & I were exhausted, and it was the middle of the night, so we figured one night there was ok (and it also meant less blood to deal with at home  ).
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 8:30am |
I had a home birth - so did all my recuperating on the couch surrounded by family! It was absolutely fantastic and being able to do that was one of the main reasons we decided to have it at home.
We didn't tell many people that was what we were going to do because the few we did had REALLY negative reactions (except on here, where everyone was very supportive!  ), especially since it was my first pregnancy, but I think you've got to go with whatever you're going to be most comfortable with - and if that means leaving the hospital right away, so be it!
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 8:54am |
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I stayed at birthcare but really wanted to go home, I was just not pushy enough to make it happen. I think as long as your MW visits everyday in the first week to help with latching then why not go home.
If/when number two comes I definately want to go home pretty soon after giving birth.
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 11:41am |
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Personally, I don't know how I would have coped going straight home. Apart from having had an unplanned c-section, I had NO idea how to breastfeed in terms of getting baby latched properly, and as it was my milk didn't come in until Day 5 (by which time I had gone home) and I didn't have enough colostrum and baby was not getting enough to drink on Day 3 and so not sleeping ... the hospital midwives were great and took baby off my hands for an hour at a time so I could shower, or eat, or sleep ... just my own experience.
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 11:57am |
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mountain goat - i think if my labour had been anything but straightforward, and if Natalie hadn't latched well to start with, we would have stayed in hospital for longer. My milk also didn't come in till Day 5, and I do remember thinking all I was doing for those first 5 days was have her stuck onto me! We did have family with us when we came home, so they did the same thing - took her so I could sleep/shower/eat etc.
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 1:35pm |
Im a realy home person. With Maddi I was only really in the hospital for 3 hours all up. We came home almsot straight away and I made sure she was latching ok before we left (thats was a lot easier second time around)
I loved being at home and having DH there to look after me. Also having a busy 2 year old I like to be able to be there for her.
I think recovery was a lot faster being at home as well as I was pottering around a lot more.
With Keira I stayed 2 nights in the maternity unit, mainly because I was having trouble latching and needed someone there to get her on every time.
I think because they never really encouraged you to get out of bed it took a lot longer to get me walking and doing stuff again. And DH really missed those first few days.
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 1:54pm |
I went home three hours after delivery. We were in hospital for a grand total of six hours. The nurses were a bit stunned but the birth was so straight forward and baby fed well right from the start so I didn't see any point in staying. I'm not much for hospitals either, blegh, just wanted to get back home into my own environment and get on with things!
We got a lot of stunned/horrified reactions as well... which was a little sad. It was the right thing for us to do though and I don't regret it at all! I'd have had a home birth if I knew it was going to be so quick and will do if there is ever a next time.
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 2:39pm |
With #1, I stayed overnight at the hospital (she was born at 2pm but they wanted to be sure I wouldn't bleed) then transferred to a birthing centre.
With #2, I walked out of the hospital 2 hours after giving birth and DH drove us to a birthing centre, where I stayed for a couple of days.
#3 was born just after midnight. I stayed at the hospital the rest of the night, then went home. Would have gone sooner, but we lived 1 1/2 hours drive away and DH needed some sleep.
With #4 I walked out of the hospital 2 hours after giving birth and went home. 
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 3:22pm |
 blondy wrote:
mountain goat - i think if my labour had been anything but straightforward, and if Natalie hadn't latched well to start with, we would have stayed in hospital for longer. My milk also didn't come in till Day 5, and I do remember thinking all I was doing for those first 5 days was have her stuck onto me! We did have family with us when we came home, so they did the same thing - took her so I could sleep/shower/eat etc. |
Yeh you're right blondy - it's essentially the support that's the main thing. If you go home and have great support, then it's probably more comfortable than being in hospital/birthing unit.
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 4:40pm |
With Leah i had an emegency c-sect, she was a month early and in and out of special care for 6 days, so I stayed in to.
With Joel I had a VBAC with forceps so had an epidural for that so had to stay till that wore off, I was home in under 24 hours though.
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 7:02pm |
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Caleb arrived at home after a one hour labour and I decided not to bother going to birthcare.
I really enjoyed being at home - sleeping in my own bed, showering in my own bathroom, eating when what and when I felt like it and having visitors without having to be wary of sharing a room with a complete stranger.
The midwife came pretty much daily to make sure feeding and everything was going well.
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 7:59pm |
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i was home after a few hours with both my girls. i loved being able to make a nest with them on my comfy couch and eat fish and chips :)
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Posted: 18 November 2008 at 8:23pm |
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i will be nxt tym, i just stayed over nite, but wish id just cum home as i was much happier ther than in hospital.
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Posted: 19 November 2008 at 12:18pm |
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#1 I stayed in for 48 hour's and hated it so much I decided #2 was a homebirth. and #3 would have been homebirth too except I had induction it was totally differnt to #! thank goodeness, but we left 2 hour's after teh birth. at 11pm. I think it depend's on the support you have if at home i knew I had better support at home then I would have in hospital as they were really busy the night I had Ems.
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Posted: 19 November 2008 at 6:58pm |
I had my baby yesterday at Birthcare and we were planning to stay for one night before coming home, however we were only there for the birth and 2 hours after in a shared room as they were so busy they had no private rooms for us, we weren't comfy there and I felt like the MW's had no time for us. I had a breezy pregnancy and birth, and no probs with latching so far so I'm very pleased to be home =] Hospitals aren't my thing either and a night without DH is unthinkable
We have only had one comment from my MIL regarding coming home.. but we are much more comfortable here and i'm sure she has the best intentions. Good on you Febgirl and all other mummies who do what feels right for you
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Posted: 19 November 2008 at 7:09pm |
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haha im planning on my hospital post natal stay being my little holiday from darling daughter numero uno ....
and OMG!!! congrats Kriss! love the name , shes gorgeous !
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Posted: 19 November 2008 at 7:49pm |
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It is awesome to read about people coming straight home. This is no 1 but I don't want to stay in hospital, I really want to come home. My midwife said I can come home as long as no problems and baby is latching on properly... the thing I don't understand is why does baby have to be latching on properly? She comes around daily and if I had a home birth they wouldn't make me go to hospital because baby wasn't latching on properly... but then I really have no idea... scary stuff!
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Posted: 19 November 2008 at 8:58pm |
Threadjack..
caitlynsmygirl wrote:
and OMG!!! congrats Kriss! love the name, shes gorgeous ! |
Thanks 
She is an absolute darling.. more pics in Nov 08 thread hehe *proud mummy*
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