what should i do

thanks for all of the support everyone is so nice here. i joined another forum once but everyone was really clicky and they wernt very nice (anyone who has been on this site will no which one i mean). umm im not sure if it is my milk because i constantly seem to be leaking everywea!! but i am thinking the biting is him just playing around at the end of his feed.
linzy- i got given a sling but they seem so tricky (but it could just be me when i got my pram i couldnt even work out how the rain cover goes on ) but im guessing it just goes over one shoulder? i havnt had a chance to wrap him yet but next sleep i will. im sure it will make all the differance

Good to hear your supply is ok. I think he is wanting to feed more regularly, but not necessarily for longer. If he bites you, take him off and put him in a different position. If he asks you for more feed, offer it - but only once if he bites again. Then offer a toy that can stand biting

He still has a couple of growth spurts to do before you get him established on solids. Usually they are at about 3mos and then four weeks later. I find my babies have growth spurted every 2 weeks until 10 weeks and then at 3 1/2 and 4 1/2 mos. So you might have two or three spurts between now and 5mos. Totally go through with demand feeding at his age.

I disagree with your mother on the crying rule of thumb. I won't leave any baby to cry for more than 10 minutes. At 11 weeks I'd be more inclined to settle for 5 minutes. It's enough time to tell whether he is overtired (crying settles down) or he needs something (food, change, not tired) (crying gets more frantic).

I have found Plunket centres really good for this stage when you need another adult to ask questions. You can go down to your local office and just live there for a day and ask them for advice when you are stuck. It's a nice change of scenery too

Babies can't suck and bite at the same time, so when you notice he isn't sucking anymore, just chewing - you can tell by their ears... Take him off or swap sides. Its usualyl just playing, bored, milk slowed down and the more you yell, he more they do it. Hurts like a motherfather, I know, my missy still does it, but hes is a hurry up and get your bra down mum nip, and I do tell her off cos she isold enough to know its naughty!
Anyhow, take him off, try not to react (hard), put him down and stop the feed. He will soon get the picture that bite = no more milk.

As for the sleepign thing, he will be gearing up for that godawful 12 week growth spurt. Make sure he is full, winded and not over tired. I wouldn't let him cry 16 mins, that sounds liek a bit of a old wives tale, but thats just my opinion...

Baby whisperer is great, imo.

Ramble ramble, hope you get something out of that lot... tired, must go to bed....