Whos got PND or PTSD?

Awww Cinders, I kinda wondered about you too hun. What a huge step you've taken in even considering it. Yes the GP is definately your first point of call, good luck, it's not the easiest but you'll feel better once you've chatted to him/her.

1st_Time_Preggies - Oh thankx for caring and big hugs back to you

Sux about the argument with you DH. Seems it's hard to be on the same page as your partner as a general rule in parenting. Those who are on the same page are lucky. I often have different ideas then my DP. He is carefree and I am cautious. I often tell him off about how he is holding her. He may have her securely according to him, but if I see any potential for danger I freak and tell him off. I find I get easily annoyed and stressed on little sleep too. Like say if I've just got to bed and I get woken like 30-60mins after getting to sleep, I get grumpy that Annabelle has woken me so soon after such little sleep. But I try to remind myself it's not her fault, she's a baby and she's not doing it on purpose.

Yeah I get how you feel about needing some time for just you. Being a Mum takes a lot out of you and it takes up so much of you, your energy and time. So it is understandable wanting a break when possible. I don't get much of a break and am often b***hing at my DP on the weekend that it's not fair that he gets the sleep in and that I need sleep more then him, as mine gets interrupted so much, while he has a good as sleep. Also sometimes I will ask him to do something and if he's on the computer he'll tell me to do it and I'll respond by saying "seriously?!...I do so much all day for Annabelle, don't I deserve to just sit here and relax?...."

I have Annabelle on solids now and I feel it has helped with her sleeping.

And hey, feel free to b*tch. This forum is here for that and many other things.

Hey Im new to this forum, recently diagnosed with PND which I think I have had for 15months. Have been started on Fluoxetine, am on day 5 today feel nauseous with a constant headache, has anyone else had this if so how long did it take to pass? Its difficult to accept the diagnosis of depression as my symptoms were quite suttle thought it was all part of being a first time mum.
Although other people prob would have noticed. My house would get so disgustingly messy I was embaressed but still didn't have the motivation to tidy up. Just seemed like everything was more of an effort. I felt like running away once a month.
Over eating like you wouldn't believe with no motivation to get outside even for just a walk.
So really hope the meds kick in and this first stage of side effects pass.
1st_Time_Preggies- prob wouldn't worry about the sleeping thru til your DS is on solids. Dont fall into my trap that still after 15 months my DD was still waking 1-2 a night and i had to end up doing the CIO actually DH did it I did a night shift at work so I didnt have to deal with it hehe. It worked but its still not a nice thing to have to so. We got pretty desperate.

Bit quiet in this forum.
Oh well, have been on my meds for a week now and have noticed the feeling of the fog lifting a bit in my mind. Certainly feeling more happy and motivated. Even made my bed today and put clothes away, such a simple task yet i didn't do that for months. Still have the odd day where I feel nauseous and have a constant headache but dont have that today so hope the side efects are easing.

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Salz, glad the fog appears to be lifting

1st_Time_Preggies, going from 1-2 children is a big transition, but it does get easier. Like the 1st few weeks I found mega hard, due to trying to get sleep and kep the house tidy and have some kind of life. But then I discovered you can't have it all or do it all. I did in the first few weeks get a bit down as I felt my life was taken over and lost any sense of myself and just felt like I was here simply to serve everyone but myself. But after about 3 wks, things just seemed to get easier. It's more the testing behaviour from 6 1/2 yr old that made life super hard. As she used to be so well behaved and since she turned 6, slowly her attitude has gotten worse and I think the family dynamics changing was a bit of an adjustment. But the way I see it, or at least try and see it is I will have the practise for when Annabelle is older.

Nah I'm not busy, quite the opposite. Often just bored as.

I've had some down days this week. At the start of the week I was all wanting to put an end to everything, as I thought everyone would be better off without me. Only because I yelled at older daughter and Annabelle looked all worried and I got all paranoid about yelling and worried about it being a regular thing and affecting Annabelle and causing her to be timid and anxious as she gets older. I know what yelling around babies/kids can do, from being yelled at or hearing a lot of yelling growing up. Then I was driving on the motorway and looked to the side of the road and felt like driving off it. Then I cried because I felt so low and then one evening while lying in bed I cried simply because my thoughts had gone that way. I felt like I wanted to self-harm on that day at the start of the week when I was questioning myself, but thankfully I worry what people think and don't want people thinking I'm weird or strange, so I didn't. I find it hard admitting to feeling so low, as I'm sure it's not nice to hear about. Yesterday DP was stressed and yelling at me and I felt really down and sad with him being like that. I have been in a really sensitive mood emotionally this week. Getting upset a lot. I had actually written a post that took 10 mins to write this morning, but then my net had gone down while I was writing it and I didn't realise until I went to post it and found out that way. I was like NOOOOO!!!!    As I had taken all that time to write and had nothing to show for it and couldn't even go back a page and try retrieve what was written but no luck! Damn that sucked!

I am going to poke my head in here. I have been diagnosed with PTSD from my past but it is being triggered often at the moment. I saw my doctor a few weeks ago for my 3 monthly check up and he confirmed the PTSD over PND and depression. I had PND with both my boys but he now feels it was PTSD. I am starting some intensive councilling for it, and my main struggle with PTSD is control.

Hi ladies, I have a confession! I have been a lurker in this thead for awhile now So think its about time I finally joined in!

I have PND, and was diagnosed about 6weeks ago now. I got onto it fairly early and am taking 60mg citalipram.

I have had the most fantastic week since uping meds to 60mg, but today my DS2 (11wks) has not been playing the sleeping game!! Argh!! Have finally got him asleep now, but has really tested me.

Hope everyone is having a good week

Welcome Mummy_beck and Coopersmum.

Yeah it's nice to know we are not the only Mums in the world going through this.

I've been having a crap few days. Have wanted to just piss off and leave everyone behind 2 days in a row now    And have wanted to offload my oldest daughter onto someone else for the past few days. She just treats everything as a joke. I told her to stop scretching today while I was driving, as it''s distracting and I might crash, so she laughs about it and talks about the car crashing like it's funny. It's very hard with her, she doesn't understand what is appropriate and thinks so many not so nice things are just funny and a joke. It's very hard to deal with. I've wanted to self-harm both yesterday and today    But I have made sure I am strong and haven't. But I still feel crap for wanting to. I'm just getting really overwhelmed by so much these days. It hasn't helped that my baby is refusing to go to sleep before 11:30pm, though she is tired and I attempt to put her to bed like 3 times at night. Also she is teething, and has a little cold and I'm drained and getting sick. To make matters worse today, the oil heater blew up, so no heater in our room, so baby might not be going to sleep yet due to the room being cold, though I have a beanie on her and extra blankets. Then we borrowed a heater off DP's parents and got it home to discover it doesn't work. We have fan heaters, but they can't be kept on, as they are too much of a fire risk Not having a good week so far.

There are so many pages I haven't read back to see what's going on in this thread but am hoping that I can get a bit of support here. I was diagnosed with PND a little while back and although the medication has helped somewhat, it hasn't been three months yet and I'm told it can take that long to really feel its affect.

I really struggle some days. Mostly with finding my DH SOOOO irritating and sometimes I feel so angry I just want to blast him. Tonight we did blast each other and I walked out and went shopping and left him to look after the baby. Consequently the baby took forever to settle tonight (between the upset in routine and probably the argument too) and I ended up having to take him to bed for a few hours with me to get him off to sleep.

It's hard because DH has chronic depression and anxiety. You'd think I'd have understanding/sympathy from him, but instead anything I'm going through he rolls his eyes and has the attitude that he's 10x worse and has always had to cope with it. And dealing with his depression and anxiety is not easy when I'm going through it myself.

coopersmum wrote: Hi ladies, I have a confession! I have been a lurker in this thead for awhile now So think its about time I finally joined in! I have PND, and was diagnosed about 6weeks ago now. I got onto it fairly early and am taking 60mg citalipram. I have had the most fantastic week since uping meds to 60mg, but today my DS2 (11wks) has not been playing the sleeping game!! Argh!! Have finally got him asleep now, but has really tested me. Hope everyone is having a good week

How many tablets is that? My Dr is very reluctant to raise my medication from 1 tablet which I think is 20mg or maybe 40mg?? Not sure. Maybe because of the anxiety I felt at the beginning... but I'm certainly not 100% yet! Far from it! He said I would feel loads of energy... I am still waiting for that to happen - could get a bit of housework done if I did!!

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