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Hear hear to everything mummytobesept08 said. I hope you are feeling a bit better today escadachic.

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Yeah I second that post from mummytobe - please do tell MMH about what is happening with your baby and how you are feeling about hurting yourself - it is really important information. Also, what are they doing with your medication... are they upping your dose or changing you to another dose?

I think I might be finally on the right dose! I didn't want to speak too soon because it's been weird lately. First week I had upped my dose I had DH home on sick leave, 2nd week I am sick so I am getting extra sleep at the moment. But I haven't yelled at DH at all even when he's been extremely unreasonable to me. I have walked away and stayed away from him until we've both calmed down instead of going into a full on argument. And I've even taken the baby away from the situation if I've needed to. In other words - I'm not losing my temper as much or losing the plot really at all! Of course it's early days but I just feel good about telling DH how I feel about something and then walking away and being calm about the whole thing and leaving it to him as to how he responds. People have always given me this advice but it feels like for the first time I've been able to carry it out.

So anyway back to you - just wondering about your medication because I'm thinking that it may be the reason why things are not well-managed in terms of your PND. (It annoys me that they just call it depression as if hormones and having a baby doesn't have an impact on your mental health!)
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Originally posted by mummytobesep08 mummytobesep08 wrote:

Can I ask, does your MMH worker know that sometimes you feel like hurting yourself?


Yeah I do mention it to her. But it almost seems as if, because I don't take any action, she doesn't seem overly concerned. It's like she is sick of my negative mindset and not seeing me improving. Sometimes I find her rather unhelpful. Other times, I don't mind her. It's like, the only time she decided to try get me more support is when I mentioned I had slapped Sophie in the face and that I had really wanted to punch her in the face a different time and I couldn't say for sure if I would or wouldn't have done that if I wasn't driving. It's like, though I had mentioned in the past how stressed I was and wanting to lash out at Sophie, she didn't take me seriously until I said I'd wanted to punch her.

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Oh I'm not on medication btw. I haven't found anything that works for me.

But thankx for all the lovely things you all said. It's nice to have some people to share this with, other then our poor DP's/DH's/DF's.

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Are you seeing a Psychiatrist through MMH to help you find the right medication and dose? I don't see that you will improve without it! And you may end up hurting yourself or someone else... I can't believe they are not taking you more seriously

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Originally posted by escadachic escadachic wrote:


But it almost seems as if, because I don't take any action, she doesn't seem overly concerned. It's like she is sick of my negative mindset and not seeing me improving. ...
It's like, though I had mentioned in the past how stressed I was and wanting to lash out at Sophie, she didn't take me seriously until I said I'd wanted to punch her.


Far out hun, that really, really sucks! It's hard enough telling anyone about those feelings but to have it downplayed must be really tough
I feel for you that you don't have a a support worker who seems like they get you. Feeling like they are getting sick of you is really not helpful! You certainly won't be one of the only ones who isn't totally better and for a lot of mums the journey gets worse before it gets better. Keep asking for help though hun and keep letting them know how you are feeling. Who knows maybe hearing how you felt like punching her actually helped cuz it sort of shows the support worker more how you are feeling?

Nathansmummy- really glad to hear that your meds are sorted I think for some people once the meds are sorted it is so much easier to do the other sort of 'self-help' things. It's like the meds can give you a step up so that you can start doing all the other good things that can help.

For me I would definitely not give that much credit to meds (except for the ones that make me sleep- they have been a life saver!) but medication lucky number 13 helped enough that I was able to exercise and make more of an effort to do something nice for myself each day and it felt like they gave me space enough in my head that I could work on making my thoughts more positive




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escadachic I can't believe they aren't taking you that seriously. That is soooo wrong

Sucks that you haven't found the right medication or dose. That definitely might help those feelings you are having. Is there any way you can change your support worker?

nathansmummy, AWESOME that you have found the right dose!!!!! I am still on 20mg and it seems to be right for me. MMH have said that I should be on it 6 months after I feel "back to normal". So I hope to try and wean myself off maybe when he is one???? The idea scares me!!!
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Yeah I'm trying to get pregnant after 6mths so I think it will probably be too early but will wean off then too. SO hope I don't have a relapse!
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Yay for TTC nathansmummy!

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Wee update from me: DH and I have been given the all clear to start TTC soon! Well, sort of. Not from the mental health side of things, but from the physical side of things with recovering from my little ones birth. So exciting! It'll be about 6 months til we can try **easily** but it's good news to us!

Thought we might have been super lucky this month as I'm almost a week late, but test was a big fat negative so I think it's the stress from the earthquake that has made AF disappear. Probably a good thing anyway because the Quake has made the PND/PTSD side of things heaps worse I hope any other chch mums who come in here are safe and sound and have somewhere warm and safe to live in!




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Not sure if anyone comes into this particular thread but thought I'd post in here anyway,

Today has been a bloody hard day! My little girl turns 2 in two days. We are all very excited and I've planned this party, doing decorations and loot bag and fairy cakes and all those wonderful girly party things...I'm happy to celebrate this but it's bittersweet and I wonder if anyone else ever feels like this?

I had a really tough time with DD's birth. It was hands down the worst thing that ever happened to me (but the best as well because it brought DD into the world)- it's confusing!

I guess today it's been hard because I keep thinking "this day two years ago..." every time I look at the clock. It brings back memories quite strongly.

I know by the time Charli-Rose's birthday comes round I will be over it and will be smiley and happy and celebrating...so maybe it's just tonight that will be hard and I'm just wanting to acknowledge somewhere that...that it's bittersweet




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that must be really tough mummytobesept08.
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thanks amme

Like I hoped, I felt heaps better on the actual day of Charli's birthday. We went out to breakfast and had a party for her friends in the afternoon. It was an awesome arvo- so many kids and babies and their mums and dads enjoying the sun and food and music...we all had a great time and I think that's helped with how I've felt about things too- we were able to CELEBRATE Charli's birth and put the other stuff aside for a bit.




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Awesome mummytobesept08, sounds like a lovely lovely day
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yay that is great
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